Blowing Up

Ten seconds. That's all it takes — one comment, one look, one shove in the hallway — and the words are out, the door is slammed, the friendship is cracked, and you're standing in the wreckage wondering who that person was. Everybody knows your temper. Maybe you're tired of it costing you. This book isn't a lecture. It's the way back down.

Blowing Up: Anger and the Way Back Down gets honest in three movements. First, the spark: everybody blows up, how to know your triggers, what anger actually costs you, and the lie that you can't control it. Then, the Scripture: anger has an address in God's Word, the quick-slow-slow of James, the soft answer that turns away wrath, and the strength that's mightier than a warrior's. Finally, the way down: the pause, words that build instead of burn, putting the old anger away, and becoming a peacemaker.

Every chapter — about ten minutes long — opens with Scripture and ends with one move to make this week. Three words carry the book: Slow. Steady. Soft. Its index-card wisdom is James's command: "let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger" (James 1:19). Anger itself isn't the sin — God gave you the emotion. The question was never whether you'll feel it, but what you'll do with it. Soft isn't weak. It's strength under control.

Written from a Christian worldview — Scripture first.

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