The Love You're After - For The Love You Deserve

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If you don't have the patience, insight and perseverance to even handle this product description, then there is nothing in this workbook for you. Period. There are no magic tricks or overnight processes for you to grasp onto. Everything here requires patience, insight and perseverance and the willingness to do the actual work required. If you cannot, or will not, then this is not for you.

Like everything else here, this is also from lived experience, so if you are desperate and unwilling to slow down and unwind the inner tension that you're feeling, then I invite you to hold off on purchasing until you have fully internalized the sample, because, especially in this case, your desperation means that you'll miss the fullness of the work within. Meaning, now is not the time for you.

Before you go any further, this workbook is ultimately all about you. But we, Sharon and I, are willing a little awkwardness in this description because we both felt it vitally important for you to know how this came about. The pacing here in this description is a little off-center, and yet, we both felt that was the proper way to share this with you.

This is not a workbook about how to “get the person” or “manifest your soulmate,” or anything else that so many of us have been conditioned to expect when we start talking about intimate relationship, loving another, being loved by another. In creating this, the goal was to speak to you as if you were sitting across from Sharon and me, and were taking the time to share with you how we got to where we are now in this life of love and connection. How we found this place of connection and union in ways that neither of us had ever been taught or shown at any time along our dating lives. 

Ever.

Nothing here is designed to be a quick fix, a trick, or a set of rules to finally be “chosen.” Nope. There is none of that.

It is a whole-hearted opportunity to spend time with yourself in a way that we hope will be enlightening for you in your own way, and in your time. This was created to be an honest, raw self-guided journey into the truth underneath the way you’ve been loving, performing, accepting, denying and trying to be loved by another. 

It’s meant to be a pathway into your own personal patterns you’ve repeated, the illusions you’ve protected, the ache you’ve carried and called “normal.” This is not about psychology, mysticism or “spirituality” in the senses that many of us have already experienced. It’s not a denial, rather, it’s simply not the focus or purpose of how and why Sharon and I created this.

You will not find soft affirmations or polished promises here. Nope. What you will find are the words we lived—unfiltered, bitter at times, and healing all the same. You will be asked to name the lies you’ve been living, even if you aren’t even aware of them right now. 

Based on the truth that each of us is allowed to stop begging for love. That at some point, to have the life that you desire, you have to face the cost of shrinking yourself small enough to be tolerated. There must be the question of why being “easy to love” has made you forgettable, even to yourself.

Inside are chapters that are meant to walk you into the patterns beneath your own pain, the difference between love and illusion, the truth of what it has cost to perform, and the recognition that you were never “too much” (ever)—and instead, consider that you were misunderstood. Each section is laced with real-world definitions, grounded exercises, and reflection questions designed not to fix you (you were never broken), but to return you to yourself—your full, unedited self.

Sharon and I lived this. And we still do.

We have found that the relationship itself has its own life and in nurturing ourselves, we then nurture one another.

And this lets our love thrive and grow and radiate and express the wonders of our dreams in ways that would never have happened had we not taken the journey that we did.

This guide was written not as theory, but as lived truth. We wrote it because we’ve been the ones who stayed longer, tried harder, and finally stopped pretending crumbs were enough.

You deserve real love. Not later. Not when you’ve proven yourself. Now.

It’s time.