Vol 05 · People Pleasing

People Pleasing – Fillable Workbook (Vol 05, A Culture of Kindness Leadership Library)

A practical, fillable workbook to understand the people-pleasing pattern, say no without guilt and lead from a place of self-respect.

Kind by choice, not by fear.

Breaking the cycle: leading and living from a place of self-respect

People pleasing looks like kindness, but it's kindness with strings attached: driven by the fear of disappointing others rather than the freedom to choose. Over time it costs us our energy, our honesty and our sense of who we are.

Built around Nahla Summers' KQ² – The Human Equation and her Tough Kindness approach, this workbook helps you understand where the pattern came from, say no without guilt, find your voice and lead from a place of self-respect, at work and in life.

Inside you'll find

50+ practical tools across 8 sections, including:

•     The KQ² People Pleasing Profile, to measure where you are and how you grow

•     Tools to understand your origins, beliefs and the hidden costs

•     Body-based practices to catch the fawn response before it takes over

•     Scripts for saying no, setting boundaries and honest conversations

•     Leadership tools, team activities and a 90-day recovery plan

The 8 sections

1.     What People Pleasing Is

2.     Where It Comes From

3.     The Approval Trap

4.     Your Body Knows First

5.     Saying No and Holding Boundaries

6.     Finding Your Voice

7.     Leading Without Pleasing

8.     Your New Story

Who it's for

•     Anyone who says yes when they mean no, then feels drained or resentful

•     Leaders who avoid difficult conversations or take on too much themselves

•     People who want firmer boundaries without losing their kindness

•     Coaches, HR and L&D professionals supporting people with this pattern

What you get

•     A 96-page A4 PDF workbook by Nahla Summers, creator of KQ² – The Human Equation

•     Fully fillable: type your answers straight into the page, click to score the self-assessments and save as you go

•     Print-friendly too, if you prefer to write by hand

•     Works best in the free Adobe Acrobat Reader on computer, tablet or phone

Using it with your team

This licence is for one person. You may copy the fill-in templates for use with your own team. For use across a department or organisation, multi-user and facilitator licences are available: get in touch via acultureofkindness.co.uk.

Part of the A Culture of Kindness Leadership Library, an eight-volume series of practical workbooks for leading and living with kindness, courage and honesty. This is Vol 05.