Understanding Declarative Language: A Guide for Families

A comprehensive resource by Dr. Natasha Holden, Clinical Psychologist & PDA Parent

Transform your family communication with this practical guide to declarative language – a powerful approach that reduces the threat response, builds connection, and supports your child's autonomy.

What you'll discover:

• The science behind why declarative language works – understand how it helps keep your child's nervous system regulated
• Real-life examples for everyday situations like morning routines, transitions, and social interactions
• Step-by-step guidance to transform demanding language into supportive communication
• Practical strategies for handling challenges and building your confidence
• Quick reference guide for creating your own declarative statements
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This guide is particularly valuable for families of children with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), those who have experienced trauma, or any child who responds better to collaborative approaches rather than direct demands.

Written from both professional expertise and lived experience, this resource offers warm, practical support for your parenting journey. Learn to communicate in ways that reduce stress, build thinking skills, and strengthen your connection with your child.

8 pages, downloadable PDF format



From Dr. Natasha Holden – combining clinical psychology expertise with real understanding as a parent of PDA children.