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In today's cyber-connected world, a critic can attack someone without ever meeting face-to-face. This phenomenon is creating a generation who lack the ability to civilly confront a person with whom they disagree.
The Charm of Confrontation shows how mastering the skill of confrontation—which is simply a situation of opposing parties—can open doors to your success in relationships and your career. Different than most self-help books, The Charm of Confrontation uses my spiritual journey and background in theater to give you tools as a framework for your confrontations. And you don’t have to be an actor or a Christian to use these tools. Anyone who wants to get better at confrontation can use them!
I don't know about you, but when I was growing up I was taught only how to “turn the other cheek” in conflict situations. In our house, at least in the early years, family conflicts were squashed with old-fashioned “whoopin’s.” If you had a conflicting opinion—especially with parents—it was best kept to yourself. You did what you were told, like it or not. It was only as an adult that I learned how to effectively stand up for myself. This is not an expert-telling-you-what-to-do kind of self-help book, but the kind where I’m helping myself by writing it. I’m reminding myself of what I’ve learned on the subject, sharing it and continuing to practice my own confrontations.
After getting food poisoning from a sandwich I knew I should have sent back, overpaying my share of birthday dinner parties at restaurants, and being talked into seeing way too many movies I didn't want to see, I finally learned to speak up and state my objections. It was costing me too much to be “nice”!
People who “speak their mind” and confront issues “head-on” are far less likely to lose sleep worrying about what should have been said. People who deal “straight up” sleep like babies. That's what I want for you. I want you to sleep like a fetus!
That sandwich I should have sent back was a Big Mac. When I bit into it and saw the red center, my first thought was, "I should take this back. It's not cooked!" but then fear struck. I didn't want anyone to get mad at me or think I was trying to pull something over on anybody. "Who am I to question the culinary expertise of the fine chefs at McDonald’s? Maybe it's my own palate that needs expanding. Perhaps I need this new dining experience," I thought. And I proceeded to eat the not-fully-cooked Big Mac.
Later that night, when I was doubled over a garbage pail writhing in pain, hoping to throw up just to get some relief, it hit me that this was my fault. I could have taken the burger back but, the truth is, I didn't want to confront the cashier. Avoiding confrontation led me to spending an agonizing night learning an excruciating lesson.
Deep down, each of us wants to be able to confront what we think is wrong. No one wants to fear confrontation.
In The Charm of Confrontation I’ll give you the keys to unlock your personal style of dealing with verbal aggressions that scare you. Following me on this path to learn the charm of confrontation, you will earn the respect of family, friends, and coworkers. Even people who don’t know you well will admire your straightforwardness.
If there’s anyone in your life who thinks you exist to be pushed around (or just not listened to), I urge you to make it a priority to learn the skills to restore balance to your relationships. Don't wait! Being easy-going costs you money, time, and emotional stress. Life’s too short and self-assertion is charismatic!
In this book, you can choose to read at a slower pace taking time to consider the dense concepts highlighted in the real life stories or you can skip right to the Practical Advice and be done in one day. After reading it, you can immediately start building your reputation as an amicably forthright person who speaks their mind. Then watch how success finds you!
The Charm of Confrontation shows how mastering the skill of confrontation—which is simply a situation of opposing parties—can open doors to your success in relationships and your career. Different than most self-help books, The Charm of Confrontation uses my spiritual journey and background in theater to give you tools as a framework for your confrontations. And you don’t have to be an actor or a Christian to use these tools. Anyone who wants to get better at confrontation can use them!
I don't know about you, but when I was growing up I was taught only how to “turn the other cheek” in conflict situations. In our house, at least in the early years, family conflicts were squashed with old-fashioned “whoopin’s.” If you had a conflicting opinion—especially with parents—it was best kept to yourself. You did what you were told, like it or not. It was only as an adult that I learned how to effectively stand up for myself. This is not an expert-telling-you-what-to-do kind of self-help book, but the kind where I’m helping myself by writing it. I’m reminding myself of what I’ve learned on the subject, sharing it and continuing to practice my own confrontations.
After getting food poisoning from a sandwich I knew I should have sent back, overpaying my share of birthday dinner parties at restaurants, and being talked into seeing way too many movies I didn't want to see, I finally learned to speak up and state my objections. It was costing me too much to be “nice”!
People who “speak their mind” and confront issues “head-on” are far less likely to lose sleep worrying about what should have been said. People who deal “straight up” sleep like babies. That's what I want for you. I want you to sleep like a fetus!
That sandwich I should have sent back was a Big Mac. When I bit into it and saw the red center, my first thought was, "I should take this back. It's not cooked!" but then fear struck. I didn't want anyone to get mad at me or think I was trying to pull something over on anybody. "Who am I to question the culinary expertise of the fine chefs at McDonald’s? Maybe it's my own palate that needs expanding. Perhaps I need this new dining experience," I thought. And I proceeded to eat the not-fully-cooked Big Mac.
Later that night, when I was doubled over a garbage pail writhing in pain, hoping to throw up just to get some relief, it hit me that this was my fault. I could have taken the burger back but, the truth is, I didn't want to confront the cashier. Avoiding confrontation led me to spending an agonizing night learning an excruciating lesson.
Deep down, each of us wants to be able to confront what we think is wrong. No one wants to fear confrontation.
In The Charm of Confrontation I’ll give you the keys to unlock your personal style of dealing with verbal aggressions that scare you. Following me on this path to learn the charm of confrontation, you will earn the respect of family, friends, and coworkers. Even people who don’t know you well will admire your straightforwardness.
If there’s anyone in your life who thinks you exist to be pushed around (or just not listened to), I urge you to make it a priority to learn the skills to restore balance to your relationships. Don't wait! Being easy-going costs you money, time, and emotional stress. Life’s too short and self-assertion is charismatic!
In this book, you can choose to read at a slower pace taking time to consider the dense concepts highlighted in the real life stories or you can skip right to the Practical Advice and be done in one day. After reading it, you can immediately start building your reputation as an amicably forthright person who speaks their mind. Then watch how success finds you!