They're Turning My Children Against Me — The Father's Legal Guide to Parental Alienation

You know something is wrong. Your children used to run 

to you. Now they flinch. They repeat phrases that sound 

like an adult's words in a child's mouth. They cannot 

explain why they don't want to see you — they just know 

they don't.

Something has changed. And you suspect you know what it is.

This guide addresses one of the most painful and legally 

complex situations in family court — where a parent 

systematically undermines a child's relationship with 

the other parent, to the point where the child rejects 

that parent without legitimate reason.

Courts recognise this behaviour. They have specific powers 

to address it. This guide tells you how to use them.

WHAT THIS GUIDE COVERS:

PART 1 — WHAT PARENTAL ALIENATION IS AND IS NOT

Why "she is alienating the children" is the wrong 

framing — and what to say instead. The specific 

behaviours courts look for. The signs in the children. 

What it is not — because not every contact problem 

is alienation, and honesty about that makes you 

more credible, not less.

PART 2 — DOCUMENTING THE BEHAVIOUR

Why pattern evidence is everything. What your contact 

log must record — the exact words children use, every 

cancellation, every escalation. How to capture messages 

and third-party observations. The evidence courts find 

credible — and the evidence they don't.

PART 3 — PRESENTING YOUR CASE TO THE COURT

The framing that works — focused on the children's 

welfare, not the other parent's character. How to 

structure your witness statement around the welfare 

checklist. The remedies available, in escalating order:

from variation of the order to penal notices, activity 

directions, section 7 reports, psychological assessments 

— and in the most serious cases, transfer of residence. 

It happens. This guide explains how courts get there.

PART 4 — THE SECTION 7 REPORT

Why this is your most powerful tool in an alienation 

case. How to engage with CAFCASS positively. What to 

do if the section 7 report does not address your 

concerns adequately.

PART 5 — THE PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPACT AND THE LONG GAME

What alienation does to children long-term — and why 

courts are increasingly aware of it. How to frame your 

case around the children's future, not just the present. 

Why you must never give up — and the evidence of that 

persistence that will matter, eventually.

WHAT YOU GET:

✓ The only practical legal guide to parental alienation 

 written specifically for fathers

✓ Framing that courts respond to — not labels they 

 treat with caution

✓ The remedies available — all of them, in order

✓ Written by a qualified solicitor (non-practising) 

 who has been a litigant in person himself

✓ PDF — instant download, lifetime access

No deposit. No hourly rate. No invoice.

The knowledge your solicitor has — without the bill.

For educational purposes only. Not legal advice.

Eugene Pienaar is a non-practising Solicitor of the 

Supreme Court of England and Wales.