Whole Parenting

An embodied guide to understanding your child and yourself: body, bond, behaviour, and nature, brought together at last.

There is a way of raising a child that does not begin with the child at all. It begins with you, returned to your own body and your own nature, because everything you long to give them grows from that ground.

Whole Parenting is the volume I went looking for when my first baby was placed in my arms, and could not find. For years I gathered it in pieces, from attachment science and the living body, from German New Medicine and Human Design, from the great voices in respectful parenting, and from raising three children of my own through home birth, freebirth, and the long ordinary days nobody writes about. All of it now lives in one place.

This is not another method, and it is not a set of techniques for managing a child into doing as they are told. It is a whole way of seeing your child, and yourself, from the body up. It gathers the things usually kept on separate shelves, the workings of the nervous system, the meaning folded inside behaviour, the inner work a mother must do, the spiritual life of a family, and sets them down together, the way they actually live inside a real home.

What is inside

Two hundred and forty nine pages, across five parts.

Seeing the child. The wholeness your child arrived with, the water we were all raised in, a child’s right to respect, and the blueprint of who they already are.

What a child is made of. The deep need to be held, the reason a child holds on, behaviour as a language, the two reasons children cry, and how two opposite things can be true at once.

The daily practice. Speaking to them as people, the sturdy container that keeps them safe without ever turning harsh, the end of punishment and reward, food and play, the voice in the dark, and the quiet art of repair.

Your own work. The calm a child borrows from you, the buttons only they can press, and why you cannot give what you have not yet found in yourself.

The return. Wonder, ceremony, and the life of the spirit, and all that our children came here to teach us.

Who it is for

It is for the mother who already senses there is a truer way than the one she was handed. Who is tired of parenting from the neck up, reaching for the next trick, managing where she longs to mother. Who wants to understand her child rather than control them, and who is ready to begin with herself.

A complete digital volume of 249 pages, beautifully typeset, delivered as an instant download to keep and return to for as long as you are raising them.

Return to your nature, and theirs.

£77.