Healthy Boundaries: A Parent Guide for the Middle School Years
Big hearts still need boundaries.
Healthy Boundaries: A Parent & Caregiver Guide for the Middle School Years is an 8-page downloadable resource for adults supporting young people ages 10–15. It helps parents and caregivers talk about unhealthy relationship patterns without teaching kids to fear people, diagnose others, or see every difficult interaction as dangerous. The emphasis is on practical discernment: noticing what repeats, describing behavior clearly, asking for support, and choosing a healthy next step.
MSMP_Parent_Guide_Healthy_Boundaries.pdf
Inside the guide, you’ll find practical, family-friendly tools for:
- using behavior-focused language around spotlight behavior, scapegoating, patterns, boundaries, repair, and discernment
- noticing when a highly capable child has quietly become the researcher, fixer, peacekeeper, organizer, or emotional support person for everyone else
- listening before solving and helping a child describe what happened without immediately deciding who is “good” or “bad”
- coaching short, realistic boundary scripts for school, friendship, privacy, pressure, and overwhelm
- supporting neurodivergent young people through co-regulation, sensory support, trusted adults, routines, and animals
- recognizing when it is time to involve school staff, another responsible adult, a licensed professional, or urgent support
- creating a simple Family “Now What?” Plan that turns insight into one manageable next step
This guide is connected to the Middle School Mary Poppins episode “Living in a Material World: Spotlight People, Scapegoats and Staying Clever.”
MSMP_Parent_Guide_Healthy_Boundaries.pdf
Created by Suzanne M. Swain, EdS, LMSW
Educator, professor, licensed social worker, and host of the Middle School Mary Poppins podcast.
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Questions about this resource?
Please contact Middle School Mary Poppins through MSMaryPoppins.com.
Digital download only. No physical product will be shipped.
This resource is educational and is not a substitute for individualized mental-health care, school support, or emergency services.
