The FLR agreement workbook: contract, boundaries & kink checklist in one

Part 1: Contract and boundaries

• A clear process: work separately, compare, then decide together

• Reflection pages on why each of you wants an FLR, what you hope for and what makes you nervous

• A limits inventory covering 16 areas of the dynamic, with separate columns for each partner

• Hard and soft limits worksheets

• An areas of authority table that decides where she leads fully, where he is consulted and what stays shared

• Rules and rituals planners with review dates

• Agreements on feedback and consequences, including ground rules for fair, calm correction

• A safeword system, plus how to pause and restart the dynamic during hard seasons of life

• A weekly check-in routine and a log for formal reviews

Part 2: The kink checklist

• 94 items across 10 categories, from power exchange, service and chastity to sensation, roleplay and aftercare

• Separate columns for her and him, using Y (yes), M (maybe), F (fantasy only) and N (no)

• Ground rules for comparing answers without shame or pressure

• A "shared map" page for your mutual yeses, maybes, fantasies, limits and the first thing you want to try

Part 3: Your written agreement

• A two-page FLR agreement that brings everything together, including your shared intimacy yeses and limits, to sign and date together

Who it's for

Couples starting an FLR who want to build it on clear foundations. It also suits established couples who want to put their unspoken agreements into words, rediscover each other's desires, or reset a dynamic that has drifted.

Format

• 24-page PDF, A4, designed to be printed and filled in by hand

• Instant download after purchase

For consenting adults. This workbook is a relationship tool, not a legal document, and not a substitute for medical advice, therapy or professional counselling.