WHAT YOU'LL EXPLORE:
Part 1 - It's not a willpower problem
Why the inability to say no has nothing to do with weakness or personality and everything to do with a nervous system responding to a learned threat signal.
Part 2 - Where it came from
The early experiences and relationships that taught your nervous system that saying no had consequences and why that wiring can still fire, even when the original danger is long gone.
Part 3 - What it's protecting
The reframe that changes everything. Your yes isn't weakness. It's protection. And understanding what it's been protecting is why something finally begins to shift.
THIS IS FOR YOU IF:
- You say yes and feel the resentment arrive immediately after.
- Disappointing someone feels physically uncomfortable like a threat, not just an inconvenience.
- You've tried to set limits but the guilt spiral that follows makes it feel not worth it.
- You understand people-pleasing intellectually but can't seem to stop doing it.
- You want to understand why and not just be told to do it differently.
WHAT YOU GET:
🎧 One 13-minute therapist-led audio - yours to listen to whenever and wherever you need it, be that on a walk, in your car or late at night when spirals can begin.
📥 Immediate access - no waiting, no drip content, so you can come back to it whenever you need a reminder.
Created by a qualified relational therapist specialising in hidden anxiety and masking in women
One Time Payment - £7
Less than a coffee and a cake. And far more useful. (In my opinion!)
A NOTE FROM TORY:
This is one of the most common things I work with in my therapy room. The women who sit across from me are so capable, thoughtful, often high-achieving - they are not people who don't know their own minds. They know exactly what they want to say. They just can't make themselves say it without the aftermath swallowing them whole.
If that's you - this recording was made for you. And I hope you find it helpful.
If it opens something up that you want to explore further, The Mask That Made Me is the natural next step.
It's my five module self-paced course that goes deeper into understanding your anxiety, your masks and your way back to becoming more of yourself.
You can read more about it here.
If you would like to read more about my therapy practice please visit: yourstorytherapy.org
