Same Flags, Different Trousers — 15 Red Flags Marjorie Saw in 1977 (Fillable Guide + Scorecard)

I have been watching men for a long time. Forty years on a hospital ward, forty-eight years married, and four children who between them have brought home every kind of man there is.

The flags do not change. The trousers change. The phones change. "Situationship" didn't exist in 1977, but the thing it describes certainly did.

What's inside

– 15 red flags, each with Then (1977), Now, Why it matters, and one line from Winston, who insisted

– A tick box under every flag — Seen it? — and a line for where you saw it

– The three that are NOT flags — the things I've watched good women leave good men over

– Score your man — tick what you've seen, add it up, and read what Marjorie thinks of the number. From "Marry him" to "Leave."

A taste

Flag 1: Lovely to you, rude to the waitress. That's not lovely. That's aim.

Flag 5: "Not ready" is a full sentence. It has no second half. You keep adding one.

Flag 13: The problem is not that you're intimidating.

How it works

Fillable PDF. Tap a box on your phone or laptop and tick as you read. Only tick what you've actually seen — you're the only one reading it.

Who it's for

You've got a feeling about him and you'd like a second opinion from someone who's seen it before. Several times.

— Marjorie & Winston Beckford. Married since 1978. Still arguing. Still here.