TRIGGER TRIAGE CIRCLE

You feel a gut punch in your stomach before you even know why. You see a name light up his phone in the dark. You hear the bathroom fan at night and remember what you found. You sit beside him in church and feel your chest tighten. You're driving the kids and a song comes on, and suddenly your hands grip the wheel and you can barely breathe. Your mind is trying to move forward, but your body is still bracing for impact. You love God. and want to walk in truth, but you’re worn out from feeling ambushed by these moments. If that's where you are, Trigger Triage Circle is the place you get usable help.

I’m Rhonda Marie Stalb, LMFT, a Christian therapist who helps you navigate betrayal trauma. Trigger Triage Circle is a membership for Christian wives who need help with betrayal triggers in daily life. Inside, you receive three kinds of support

• Trigger Triage – a members only chat tool you open when a trigger hits, share what's going on, and get live coaching through it.
• Trigger Triage Lite – includes short grounding audios, simple one-topic pages, and worksheets you can use without any chat tool.
• Circle Care – a monthly live call (Live Membership) and a monthly resource drop inside your membership.

We don't pretend it doesn’t hurt or pressure you to move faster than your heart can bear here. God is near you in the kitchen, in the car, and in your bed at night when the pain hits. Trigger Triage Circle is built to help you remember that when betrayal triggers arise.

When a trigger hits

• You open the Trigger Triage chat tool on your computer or phone app. (ChatGPT)
• You enter a sentence or two into the chat about what’s happening.
• It responds with grounding ideas, a short teaching page, or one or two phrases you can use in a difficult conversation.

If you can't use the chat tool

• You open Trigger Triage Lite
• You press play on a brief grounding audio.
• You open a one-topic page, or, if it'll help, a worksheet that fits what’s going on.

In the days after a hard discovery or flare up

• You can use a debriefing page to write what happened and what helped you in that moment.
• You can identify safety flags so you're not wondering what to discern as safe or not. 
• You can write out what you’re okay with and what you’re not okay with right now.

You get to choose the tool you need to use and come back to it as you need to.

Trigger Triage Circle is for you if:

• You’ve experienced betrayal and still feel your body jolt at sounds, places, or reminders.
• You feel ashamed of how you react and want gentler, Christ-centered ways to handle those moments.
• You want Scripture, prayer, and tools that do not dismiss your pain.
• You want care that honors your story and your pace.

You don’t have to be “ready” in any special way. You only need to be a Christian wife who wants compassionate and practical help with your betrayal triggers.

Trigger Triage is a private chat tool you open in your browser or phone app (ChatGPT). It uses questions and guidance I’ve written for it to help you through your betrayal trauma triggers. It's a tool to use in between sessions and doesn't replace therapy, pastoral care, or your own walk with God.

When a trigger hits or questions start spinning in your mind, you can open Trigger Triage and chat about what's going on. It's like having your own 24/7 coach when the triggers get intense, especially in the late night hours.

Here's some examples of what you might be dealing with:

• “I just got really triggered and my chest is tight. Can you help me calm down?”
• “I can’t stop replaying what I found. Is that normal?”
• “I want to set boundaries, but I feel guilty every time I try.”
• “How do I know if this is real repentance or just damage control?”
• “I feel stuck between trusting God and protecting myself. What now?”

Trigger Triage takes what you type in and helps you name what's happening in your body and thoughts, shares a one-topic resource page or worksheet that might fit your situation, and helps you sort out one action you can take next like: using a grounding tool, establishing a necessary boundary, or writing down questions to bring to trusted professional or pastoral care.

It stays in its place as a support tool and leaves room for your professional care to work, your real relationships to navigate the hurt of betrayal, and your connection with God to flourish. You receive a Start Here note that shows you how to get started and use the chat tool as a member.

Monthly Live Circle Care (Live Membership Only)

Once a month, in the Live Membership Level we meet online by Zoom. We walk through one real trigger story, notice what shows up in the body and thoughts, bring in Scripture with care, and practice a simple response. You can listen quietly or share. A replay sits inside your membership if you can’t attend live.

Note: To use TT Circle Chat Unlimited you need to have a ChatGPT plus account. (It's $20 per month and you can cancel it anytime and use the limited chats of the free version if you don't want to pay for the ChatGPT subscription. You can also use resources in TT Circle Lite which doesn't require using the custom GPT.)

It makes sense if you still feel unsure. Navigating betrayal trauma is overwhelming and decisions feel almost impossible. Here are some answers to questions you might be having.

“I’m already in counseling. Is this trying to replace my therapist?”

No. Trigger Triage Circle is extra support between sessions. It gives you simple tools for the moments your body flares and your mind spins. Counseling, pastoral care, and real-life support stay in their place.

“I’m nervous about chat tools.”

You never have to use the chat helper. TT Lite gives you a grounding audio, brief guides, and worksheets you can use on your own, without any chat tool.

“I don’t have energy for one more thing.”

You are allowed to move slowly here. You can use one audio, one page, or one worksheet and leave the rest for later. There's no pressure to keep up. This isn't homework you have to do. It's a resource in your tool box for the difficult moments and when therapy appointments are a week or so away.

“What if I join the live call and freeze?”

While you're invited and gently encouraged to share, you can be quiet in the live circle. You can log in, read, listen, and say nothing. You still belong.

If you want Bible-anchored care that honors your shock and confusion, you’re welcome inside Trigger Triage Circle.

You can show up right in the middle of the mess, without having everything sorted out.

When you’re ready, you can choose the membership level that fits you best.

Still wondering if this is right for you? Have a few more questions? Email me anytime:

Practical, trauma-aware and Bible-anchored support. This is NOT medical, legal, or therapy advice. Cancel any time to stop the next charge. No refunds on digital content or past months. All sales final.