Don't Bring The Wound To The Wedding

Don't Bring the Wound to the Wedding

You've been hurt before.

Betrayed. Abandoned.

Made to feel small.

And somewhere deep down — maybe without ever saying it out loud — you're hoping the next person will finally make it stop.

They won't. Not because you're unlovable. But because you've quietly handed them a job they never auditioned for. You're hoping they'll be your doctor. They came to you as a husband, as a wife — not to run a hospital for your heart.

A spouse is not a surgeon. A wedding is not a treatment plan. And the wound you don't heal doesn't stay politely in the past — it walks down the aisle with you. It shows up as the testing, the walls, the jealousy, the clinging. It makes the person you love pay the bill for something they never did.

This book is not here to keep you from love. It's the opposite. It's here so that when love comes, you can receive it with open hands instead of bleeding ones — so you meet your person as a whole human being, not a patient searching for a cure.

If you're single, it will save you from marrying your pain.

If you're engaged, it will protect the marriage you haven't even started yet.

In this warm, honest book, Kofi Amankwaah ( Apostle Dr. Elisha K.A. )— a pastor and counsellor of more than thirty years — walks you gently from the pain of your past to the freedom of loving again from a place of wholeness.

You'll learn how unhealed hurt secretly sabotages new love, the difference between a partner who supports your healing and one you expect to BE your healing, how to know when you're truly ready, and the real, practical work of healing: naming, grieving, forgiving, and rebuilding. There's even a chapter of grace for those who already married while wounded.

Either way, it will tell you the truth the way a friend who loves you would: gently, and without flinching. You were never meant to be healed by a person. You were meant to be healed — and then to love.

You don't have to carry this into your forever.

Heal first. Then love — free.

You can't marry your way out of a wound.

Non-denominational, and full of hard-won wisdom, with reflection questions after every chapter — perfect for personal healing, mentoring,

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