💯 You Don’t Miss Them: You Miss Who You Were With Them - Identity Based Grief After Relationships End

At some point, you realize you don’t actually miss them.

You miss who you were when they were in your life.

You Don’t Miss Them - You Miss Who You Were With Them explores a quieter kind of grief that follows relationships after they end - not the loss of the person, but the loss of the version of yourself that existed with them.

This ebook dives into identity-based grief and why it feels so confusing, persistent, and hard to explain.

Inside, you’ll explore:

• How relationships shape different versions of who we are

• Why losing a relationship can feel like losing part of yourself

• The grief of no longer being deeply known by someone

• Why moving on doesn’t erase this type of loss

• Letting go without trying to recreate the past

• Learning to witness and rebuild yourself without comparison

Written with honesty and emotional clarity, this book doesn’t offer quick fixes or clichés. It gives language to a form of grief many people experience but rarely name.

This isn’t about wanting someone back.

It’s about understanding what changed inside you when they left.

If you’ve ever felt nostalgia without desire and sadness without longing, this book is for you.

By Christopher J. Standish Jr.