Parent SEND scripts

Parent SEND Script Pack

What to say – and how to say it when communicating with your child’s school

Struggling to get clear answers from school?

Not sure how to phrase emails without sounding too soft… or too confrontational?

This practical, professionally written guide gives you ready-to-use scripts to help you communicate confidently, clearly, and effectively when advocating for your child.

What this guide will help you do:

✔ Ask for support without being dismissed

✔ Challenge vague responses and get clear answers

✔ Request meetings, referrals, and assessments with confidence

✔ Follow up when communication is delayed or unclear

✔ Keep conversations calm, constructive, and legally grounded

What’s included:

• Scripts for raising concerns
• Templates for requesting meetings (with realistic timeframes)
• Guidance for challenging unclear or vague support
• Scripts for requesting reasonable adjustments
• Templates for onward referrals (ADHD, autism, anxiety, SALT, etc.)
• Follow-up scripts when you’re not getting a response
• Template for requesting an EHCP assessment
• “When to use this” guidance for every scenario
• Bonus practical insights to strengthen your communication

Why this works

These scripts are based on real school communication expectations and aligned with the Equality Act 2010 and SEND Code of Practice.

They are designed to help you:

• Stay calm and in control
• Be taken seriously by school
• Avoid being fobbed off with vague responses
• Get to clear actions and next steps

Perfect for parents of children with:

• ADHD / ADD
• Autism (ASC)
• Anxiety / EBSA
• Dyslexia or learning needs
• Or any child where support feels unclear or insufficient

Created by a SEND professional

This guide reflects the language, expectations, and processes used within schools — giving you an insider advantage when communicating.