The Marriage and Laws of Husband & Wife Course

Insha'Allah, the following questions will be addressed in the sessions

Financial Duties and Life After the Wedding

1. If your wife is a millionaire, is she required to pay any of the rent or household bills?
2. Is a husband obliged to give his wife a monthly cash allowance, or is it something else he owes her?
3. Can a wife ask her husband to pay her for cooking?
4. How can unpaid maintenance become a debt that takes the husband’s entire estate and even puts his Hajj at risk?
5. After marriage, whose standard of living decides where she lives and what she wears: her father’s or her husband’s?
6. When can a wife leave the marital home and still have the right to be supported?
7. Why are there times and nights when couples are advised not to be intimate, and how can this affect the child? 
8. Is sitting with your family really more beloved to God than iʿtikāf in the Prophet’s Mosque?
9. What three words, according to the Prophet ﷺ, never leave a wife’s heart?

The Purpose of Marriage and Choosing the Right Person

1. Is marriage just recommended, or can it become obligatory for you, or even for your parents?
2. No house, no car, no savings: should that stop you from getting married?
3. What does it really mean that marriage protects “half of your religion”?
4. Why do we need marriage at all?
5. According to the Qur’an, what is the first purpose of marriage? (Hint: it isn’t children, money or happiness.)
6. You liked her smile at university, or his looks on Instagram. How do you know whether someone is truly right for marriage, beyond attraction?
7. What should you look for besides looks, money and status? How important are religion, character, compatibility and physical attraction?
8. She is pious, prays the night prayer and has excellent manners, but you don’t feel attracted. Should you still marry her?
9. Is it fair for someone who isn’t religious to marry a very religious person?

 Investigating a Proposal and the First Meeting

1. How can you properly investigate a potential life partner before saying yes?
2. Can love and emotional attachment before marriage prevent you from seeing red flags?
3. What are the biggest red flags you should never ignore when choosing a spouse?
4. Would you trust someone with your children if they were willing to talk to you in a ḥarām way before marriage?
5. Why is asking the groom’s mother about him one of the worst ways to research a proposal?
6. Why does praying in the mosque make it easier for families to find good husbands?
7. Should you use istikhāra when choosing a spouse, or should you investigate first?
8. Should the first meeting be the first step or the last step in the proposal process?
9. What questions should you ask before marriage?

The Marriage Contract, Rights and Responsibilities

1. Can a marriage be invalid even after 20 years and five children?
2. If she was pressured into saying yes, is the marriage valid?
3. Does a working, independent woman still need her father’s permission to marry?
4. If he lied about his salary, or she lied about her age, can the marriage be annulled without a divorce?
5. Is it wise to discuss divorce before you’ve even married?
6. What rights and responsibilities does Islam give husbands and wives? In which two matters is a wife obliged to obey her husband, and what about her phone, friends and family?
7. If you knew she was working when you married her, can you make her quit later?
8. What condition written into the marriage contract can affect who raises the children and whether she can work?
9. How should husband & wife handle disagreements, family interference and major decisions? When they disagree, whose judgment applies: your father’s, her mother’s, the Marjaʿ’s or the law?

Thank you