Who The F*ck Is You?

WHO THE FUCK IS YOU? A GUIDE TO SEEING: THE REFLECTION

I always want to make sure that you know, in the event that you may have “stumbled” here without knowing anything about me, the author and creator of these works, that nothing, including this workbook, is about immediate comfort and ease. So if you’re here because some website, other than my own, somehow directed you here and you’re expecting warm and fuzzy, a list of post-able memes and cute inspirational quotes, well, this is not that place. 

But if you’re here intentionally….

You’re here because something inside you is screaming for the truth and not that “truth” wrapped up in endless affirmations and toxic positivity. You’re most likely done with the polished, pretty lies you’ve been fed your whole life. So, these are not the stories your parents, your exes, your bosses, or even your own fucked-up thinking may have convinced you that that shit was gospel. You’re here because you’re tired of carrying the weight of words that were never yours to begin with.

This isn’t another self-help workbook where you’re going to sit and contemplate endlessly without actionable, real-world exercises that you tailor for yourself.

I am, at best, merely a guide that is sharing what has and continues to work for me. At worst, I am someone, literally, telling you that a great deal of the shit were taught about life and how we navigate life was and still is, bullshit. And even more, that a lot of the new-age feel-good, check-your-vibration crowd and the popular “think positive” schtick, although it has its place, is overused, misunderstood and shared by those that may not have even figured how who the fuck they are yet. But are trying to “help” you. And as I say, whatever you need to do for you, do it. But understand the “why”.

Think on that before you purchase anything here.

"Who The Fuck Is You?" is my sharing work that saved my life. Not “kinda”, not “sorta” and not “maybe”. This is the work I needed when I was drowning in my own shame, when I believed I was too broken, too unlovable, and beyond any hope for repair. It’s the work that I wish someone had shoved into my hands when I was staring at the bottom of a bottle, getting yet another DUI, or divorce, or before I had another child with whom I’d have no relationship. And yet, sitting in an empty room and staring into proverbial the barrel of my own despair, or the reflection of a man I didn’t even recognize anymore, let alone love.

And of course, there is always November 2, 1994 (more on that at another time. But I will say, that I had I succeeded, I would not be writing these words).

Here’s the hard truth: Most people who buy this won’t do the work. They simply won’t. They’ll flip through the pages, maybe scribble a few half-hearted answers, and then go back to living the same tired lies and doing the same stuff and hoping that something will change for the positive of its own accord. They’ll choose comfort over change. They’ll choose the illusion of safety over the raw, terrifying power of seeing themselves—really seeing themselves—for the first time.

But you? You’re different. You’re here because you’re ready to stop running. You’re ready to look at the lies you’ve been living, the stories you’ve been told, and the bullshit you’ve been carrying around like it’s some kind of sacred burden that you must stay attached to. You’re ready to ask the question that changes everything:

Who the fuck am I?

This workbook isn’t about fixing you. You were never broken. It’s about looking at certain aspects that then considering whether or not you want to strip away the layers of shit that aren’t yours—the judgments, the labels, the voices that told you you’re not enough, that you’re too much, that you don’t deserve love or peace or a life that actually feels like yours. It’s about facing the literal reflection in the mirror and finally, finally, claiming the truth: You are not what happened to you. You are not what they said about you. You are not the mistakes you’ve made or the pain you’ve endured. 

And with that, there is the inner aspect of life that no one other than you can know. There is the life inside of you that lives in secret, and as much as some of you are going to hate this, it is this life that we don’t tend to attend to that is root cause of so much of our pain and discomfort. But unlike other folks that promise you quick and easy change, I’m here to let you know, that much like the life cycle of the seed to flower, there is necessary time and attention that simply cannot be bypassed.

That means, you must do the work and then be patient. 

Why?

You are the person who survived. You are the person who’s still standing. And you are the only one who gets to decide what comes next. No matter what has happened to you, or what you may have done, you are the only one living and feeling and navigating your life. And it’s you that you must come to know and appreciate in a whole new way.

Inside these pages, you’ll find exercises that are designed to push you, to challenge you, and maybe even piss you off. You’ll write down the lies you’ve been living. You’ll confront the stories you’ve been telling yourself. You’ll dig into the raw, ugly, beautiful truth of who you are—and who you want to be. No fluff. No bullshit. No empty promises. Just you, a pen, and the courage to do the work.

This isn’t easy and it wasn’t meant to be. But if you’re willing to show up—really show up—it could change everything.

So, what’s it going to be? Are you ready to stop living someone else’s story and start writing your own? Are you ready to look in the actual mirror and see you—not the version of you that the world tried to create, but the real, unapologetic, powerful you that’s been waiting beneath the surface?

Your life is waiting. Your truth is waiting. Your reflection is waiting.

Your life is waiting.

Are you ready to meet it?

What’s Inside:

• No-nonsense exercises designed to cut through the bullshit and get to the heart of who you are.
• A space to rage, to cry, to question—and to finally let go of what isn’t yours to carry.
• The tools to rewrite your story, on your terms, in your voice.
• A challenge: Will you do the work, or will you walk away?

This is your moment. Your choice. Your reflection.