The Other Side: A Complete Resource Guide for the Great Betrayal
This Resource Guide is sold on a sliding scale to support wider access for diverse financial means. The suggested price is $10 to $30. My licenses are based on trust and mutual aid, not DRM or surveillance. If you're an individual with means, please pay what you can—it helps me get these resources to men in prison and grassroots groups with no budget. If you're an organization with a budget, please purchase the appropriate license so I can sustain this work.
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We don't believe in locking liberation behind a paywall. We do believe in asking those who can pay to support those who can't.
Your purchase includes:
- Digital PDF (read on any device)
- Permission to print one (1) personal copy for your own use
- Permission to share the PDF with no one (this is your personal copy)
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Content Summary
I wrote the essay at the center of this resource guide in my 40s,
on the other side of a life sentence in prison, a father's betrayal, and my own long performance of a man that I never
wanted to be.
I wrote it because I needed to understand how men so full
of life-giving love—my father, myself, the men I grew up
with—could become agents of a system that demeans,
dominates, and kills.
I wrote it because rejection alone is a void. I wanted to
cultivate healing seeds on the other side.
This resource package is that cultivation.
The Facilitator's Guide is for leading a single, powerful
conversation. The Study Companion is for walking together
through four weeks of tending and practice. They are
designed to be used separately or in sequence, by one man
or by a hundred.
You do not need to be a therapist, a scholar, or a seasoned
facilitator to use these materials. You only need to identify as a man
who is ready to stop paying into the con and start living
the real thing.
Contact: reframe@reframeconsults.com