The Ten Commandments of Birth - For Women and Birth Partners

The Ten Commandments of Birth

A grounding guide for women and their birth partners who want to trust the process — and themselves

Birth isn’t undone by a lack of techniques.

It’s undone by a lack of self-trust and presence.

No breathing technique can undo years of self-doubt.

No birth plan can compensate for a woman who doesn’t trust herself — or a partner who doesn’t know how to truly support her.

The Ten Commandments of Birth exist to bring you both back to what actually matters.

They are not rules.

They are not instructions.

They are anchors — written to support women and their partners emotionally, mentally, and intuitively as they prepare for birth together.

Why I Created This

For over 25 years, I’ve supported women and their birth partners, both in and out of the birth room. I’ve seen how birth unfolds when a woman feels deeply supported — and how quickly things shift when support becomes performative, distracted, or unsure.

When I first became a doula, I believed I could change the system one birth at a time. Over time, I realised that wasn’t enough for me.

I want to change as many birth experiences as possible — for women and for the partners standing beside them. That’s what led me to write my books, start this podcast, and create tools like this one.

The Ten Commandments of Birth distil decades of experience into something simple, accessible, and powerful — something you can return to again and again as part of your preparation.

What These Commandments Do

These commandments help:

Women to:

• Trust themselves first, even when things feel unfamiliar
• Stay grounded when doubt, pressure, or fear creeps in
• Protect how they feel during birth — not just what happens
• Honour their intuition alongside information and technology

Birth partners to:

• Understand how to stay present, even when things go quiet
• Support without fixing, rushing, or checking out
• Protect the birth space — emotionally and practically
• Honour Plan B without rewriting Plan A as unrealistic

This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about being steadier.

What You’ll Receive

✔ A thoughtfully written Ten Commandments of Birth PDF

✔ Clear, grounding language for women and partners to return to together

✔ A shared framework that aligns support, trust, and presence

✔ A resource that supports the inner work birth requires

This is not a birth plan.

It’s not a checklist.

It’s a foundation for partnership.

Why This Isn’t Free

I believe in making supportive resources accessible — and I also believe that empowered birth doesn’t come for free.

In my experience, when women and partners invest — even a small amount — they show up differently. They engage more deeply, reflect more honestly, and commit to the inner work that birth asks of them.

This small fee is an invitation to take your preparation seriously.

To pause.

To commit — together.

The Ten Commandments of Birth are a starting point.

If you want to go deeper — building trust, confidence, and emotional steadiness — that work happens inside Discover Your North Star, where women and partners prepare together for the realities of birth.

This PDF opens the door.

The course walks you through it

If You’re Preparing for Birth Together…

…and you want preparation that goes beyond techniques

…and you want to feel aligned, grounded, and supported

…and you want something honest, real, and rooted in experience

Then this resource is for you.