Aging Parent Moving In With You | Printable Move-In Agreement, House Rules & Room Setup Planner (Letter + A4)

Mom's moving in soon. Have the talks before the boxes come off the truck, not after.

Usually the room gets ready, and the conversations about money, meals, the thermostat, and the bathroom schedule get put off until someone is already annoyed. This printable plan puts those talks on paper: a one-page move-in agreement everyone signs, a house rules sheet for the fridge, a room setup page, and check-ins at 30 and 90 days so you can adjust as you go, plus a plan B you hope you never use.

What's inside (14 pages)

• How to Use This Kit in 5 Minutes
• Before Moving Day: Three Talks, with your partner, your parent, and your siblings
• Partner Check-In: what would make this workable, and what wouldn't, filled in privately
• Our Move-In Agreement (one page): contribution, space, meals, chores, visitors, driving, a monthly check-in date, and an "if this stops working" line. Everyone signs. It's a family agreement, not a legal contract.
• House Rules for the fridge: thermostat, TV at night, the kitchen, visitors, knocking and privacy, pets, keys and door codes
• Room Setup & Measurements: doorway widths, the route to the bathroom, where the furniture goes, and a walk of the nighttime bathroom route
• Ask Before You Remodel: who to ask before changing the house, and a blank list of questions to bring
• Our Household Week: Now, and Our Household Week: With Mom, your week as it is, then with your parent's routine added
• Address Change & First Two Weeks: mail, bank, benefit payers, pharmacy, doctor, insurance, voter registration, and the old house, each with a tick box, a date, and who you spoke to
• 30-Day Check-In and 90-Day Check-In: what's working, what isn't, and what changes
• When It's Not Working: your plan B, with signs to talk about and the options to look at next
• Sources: where each tip comes from

How it works

Start with How to Use This Kit, then Before Moving Day: Three Talks and the Partner Check-In, before you sit down with your parent. Fill in the Move-In Agreement together and sign it, then put the House Rules on the fridge. Measure the room and walk the bathroom route before moving day. Work through the address-change list in the first two weeks. Put the 30-day and 90-day check-in dates on the calendar now so they actually happen.

Who it's for

Adult children (and their partners) whose parent or in-law is moving into their home, whether the move is planned months out or happening this weekend.

Good to know

• It's an instant PDF download, in US Letter and A4.
• Every money line is blank. You and your family fill in your own amounts and arrangements.
• Print a fresh agreement and check-in pages whenever things change.
• Not moving into your home? If your family is choosing a facility instead, the Assisted-Living Move Planner covers tours, comparisons, and move day.
• Need daytime help once your parent is living with you? The Caregiver Hiring Kit helps you interview and compare candidates.

An organizing tool only, not legal, tax, medical, or financial advice. The move-in agreement is a family agreement, not a legal contract. All money fields are left blank for your family to fill in. If money changes hands regularly, ask an accountant. If property or a home title is involved, ask an attorney first. For questions about your parent's health, mobility, or driving, ask their doctor.

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