Stop trying to win someone.
Become someone worth choosing.
Most dating advice teaches you how to attract attention.
This eBook and Audiobook teaches you how to build a relationship someone is prepared to stop searching for.
Modern dating is full of noise:
It all focuses on managing the other person.
How to be LOVED takes a fundamentally different approach.
Instead of teaching you how to impress, perform, or manipulate, it helps you develop the qualities that make someone feel:
Because the truth is simple:
People don’t stop searching because they’re impressed.
They stop searching because they feel at home.
If you’re looking for tricks, shortcuts or scripts, this book isn’t for you.
If you want:
Then How to be LOVED will change how you approach love — permanently.
If dating feels exhausting, confusing, or repetitive, it’s rarely because:
It’s usually because:
This book changes that.
The Emotional Core (What Actually Makes Someone Stay)
At the heart of this book is a simple but powerful framework:
your Emotional Core.
You become:
And that changes everything.
Strengthen your ‘Emotional Core’ one day at a time.
In How to be LOVED, you’ll discover:
This is not about becoming “better at dating”.
It’s about becoming mentally and emotionally stronger — so relationships stop feeling like a test you might fail.
What Changes When Your Emotional Core Is Strong
When you strengthen your Emotional Core:
You don’t try to “be enough”. You are enough — and it will show.
This book is for you if:
✔ You’re tired of dating games
✔ You want a relationship built on respect, not performance
✔ You value emotional intelligence over manipulation
✔ You want to feel secure rather than constantly evaluated
✔ You want to be someone a high-quality partner chooses — and stays with
It’s especially powerful for:
Roy Sheppard is an author, former BBC presenter and long-time observer of modern relationships. His work focuses on emotional intelligence, personal development and helping people build healthy, sustainable connections without games or manipulation.
How to be LOVED distils decades of insight into a practical, grounded guide for modern relationships.
Both.
While many dating books speak to only one gender, How to be LOVED focuses on emotional intelligence, not tactics. The principles apply equally to men and women because emotional safety, respect and connection are universal.
If you’re thoughtful, self-aware and serious about building a healthy relationship, this book is for you.
No.
It’s more of a personal development book for single people who would prefer not to be single.
This book deliberately avoids:
Instead, it explains why attraction forms, why it fades, and what makes someone stay.
It’s not about doing more. It’s about becoming stronger — emotionally and mentally.
Yes — and this is one of the book’s core strengths.
Repeated relationship patterns are rarely bad luck. They usually reflect:
This book helps you recognise those patterns, understand why they exist, and change them — without blaming yourself or others.
This book doesn't promise fairy tales or guarantees.
What it will do is help you become someone:
That’s the version of you a high-quality partner is prepared to stop searching for.
No.
It’s about strengthening yourself.
There’s a difference.
This book doesn’t assume you’re broken. It helps you:
The result isn’t perfection — it’s confidence, calm and clarity.
Very much so.
Many readers come to this book after:
The Emotional Core framework helps you rebuild trust — not just in others, but in your own judgement.
Because intelligence and success don’t automatically translate into emotional clarity.
Many capable, high-functioning people struggle in relationships because they:
How to be LOVED speaks directly to people like this — offering clarity without judgement.
Many readers report a shift within days, because clarity itself is relieving.
The deeper benefits — confidence, emotional steadiness, better choices — develop as you apply the ideas. This is not a “read once and forget” book. It’s something you return to as your understanding deepens.
If you’re looking for:
This probably isn’t the right book.
If you want:
Then this book was written for you.
This is a digital download (eBook), available immediately after purchase.
You can:
Yes you can.
Once you receive the eBook file (ending in ePub) go to: www.Amazon.com/sendtokindle and simply drag and drop the file into the ‘file box’ on the Amazon page. Usually, in less than 30 seconds - the eBook will be added and visible in your Kindle library.
Because it’s built on something most dating advice ignores:
People commit when they feel safe, respected and understood — not impressed or pressured.
This book helps you become the kind of person who creates that feeling naturally.
The Stop / Start sections are built-in pause points that help you turn insight into real change.
Instead of rushing through the book, these sections invite you to:
They’re designed to slow you down just enough to reflect — without becoming homework or therapy.
Many readers say these moments are where things click, because they:
The result is not just understanding relationships better, but behaving differently in them — calmly, consciously and with greater emotional strength.
Kindle compatible.
Go to Amazon.com/sendtokindle. Drop the file you'll be sent. Within a couple of minutes it will be added to your Kindle library.
PDFs can be opened without an eBook reader. But they are also Kindle compatible.
Go to Amazon.com/sendtokindle.
Drop the PDF file you'll be sent. Within a couple of minutes it will be added to your Kindle library.
