Okay, y’all. I’m about to get real about a dream that had me screaming—then cackling—when I woke up. It was short, vivid, and hilariously blunt. It’s the kind of dream that holds up a mirror so directly, you can’t do anything but laugh at your own reflection.
Let me set the scene.
The Dream: A Public Confrontation…With Myself
I was outside, deep in conversation with someone. I felt confident, pulled together. In the dream-logic, I knew my hair was “all the way up”—sleek, styled, pristine under what my mind registered as a elegant headwrap. I was serving face, serving conversation, serving presence.
I went back inside and casually glanced in the mirror.
Y’ALL.
It wasn’t a headwrap. It was a bonnet. A whole, full-on, satin-lined, protective-style-sleeping bonnet. On my head. In public. In broad daylight.
😱 I Screamed!!
The shock wasn’t about the bonnet itself. It’s about the gap between my perceived image and the revealed reality. I thought I was one thing (polished, public, “appropriate”), and the mirror showed me I was another (private, comfortable, uncoded for outside eyes).
And then the lesson, clear as day, dropped into my waking mind like a meme from the ancestors: “Yeah, Ty. Mind ya business!”
The Interpretation: Your Private Life is Not a Public Performance
On the surface, this is a hilarious joke about my own pet peeve. But in the spirit, it’s a masterclass in discernment, projection, and personal sovereignty.
The Bonnet is a Symbol of the Private Self. It’s what we wear in the sacred, vulnerable space of our homes, our beds, our restoration. It protects our crown, our most intimate energy, while we are at our most soft and unguarded.
Seeing it in the mirror in public means I was unconsciously bringing my private standards, my personal judgments, and my own unhealed rigidity out into the open. I was wearing my “home” energy as a lens to view the world, then being horrified to find it visible on my own head.
The dream’s message is twofold:
1. For Me (And Maybe For You): What “bonnet” are you wearing in public without realizing it? What private judgment, personal standard, or unhealed insecurity are you projecting onto others, only to be shocked when you realize it’s on you? Are you judging someone’s “laziness” while ignoring your own need for rest? Side-eyeing someone’s journey while your own path is full of detours? The mirror moment forces accountability. Clean your own lens before critiquing someone else’s view.
2. For The Collective: The final laugh—“mind ya business”—is a divine command for energetic sovereignty. Another woman’s bonnet (her choices, her journey, her comfort, her survival) is her business. Your disapproval is your baggage. Your judgment is your own “bonnet” showing. The dream reinforces that true peace comes from tending to your own garden, your own hair, your own spirit, and releasing the exhausting full-time job of auditing anyone else’s.
The Spiritual Takeaway: Protection Over Perception
The bonnet’s purpose is protection, not presentation. This dream asks: Are you prioritizing how things look over what they protect?
Maybe the woman in the bonnet is protecting her peace, her energy, her $500 wig install, or her last damn nerve. It is a sign of someone who knows what she needs to preserve her strength. The dream flipped the script to ask me: “What are you doing to actively protect your own energy, instead of just criticizing how others protect theirs?”
So, I’m taking the laugh and the lesson. I’m minding my business—focusing on my own growth, my own peace, my own sacred protection. And I’m leaving everyone else’s bonnets, choices, and journeys to God.
Now, excuse me while I go tie mine a little tighter and mind mine.
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