I'll be honest with you.
When I first started working with chakras and energy, I felt self-conscious. like I was performing, even. Like there’s a right way to do it — and if I didn’t feel some immediate shift, I was doing it wrong.
I’ve always believed in energy. It's the force behind everything alive. But the way modern wellness talks, it made me question myself. Made me wonder if I was somehow doing it wrong because I wasn't "ascending" fast enough or glowing on command.
It took me far too long to realize: I wasn't broken. The map was.
I spent a lifetime not honoring myself. Not because I was lazy or unaware, but because I genuinely didn’t know that honoring myself was even an option. When I finally started asking "what if it’s not too late to live authentically?" — that’s when the real work began.
Chakras gave me structure. A starting point. A way to name what I was feeling in my body and where I was holding decades of "just get through it." Then Daoism and qigong entered the picture. And Buddhist philosophy. And suddenly, instead of feeling like I had to pick one system and master it, everything just... connected. Like breadcrumbs leading me home.
Chakras helped me differentiate what I was experiencing. Dantian taught me how to cultivate and store rather than constantly chase. Buddhism reminded me that presence matters more than perfection. And for the first time, the path made sense. Not because I'd figured it all out, but because I stopped trying to.
You know what pisses me off about modern wellness culture? The toxic positivity. The idea that healing has an endpoint. That there’s a “right” outcome. That if you just activate the right chakra or manifest the right frequency, you’ll finally arrive at some perfect version of yourself. Bullshit.
That approach doesn’t allow you to honor where you actually are. It doesn’t account for the fact that your individual experiences put you in different places on the map than someone else’s. It doesn’t let you be your best you—every part accepted. Instead, it makes you feel like you’re failing if you’re not constantly expanding, glowing, and transcending. But here’s what I’ve learned: You’re not supposed to be in constant bloom. You’re not supposed to have all your chakras perfectly balanced at all times. You’re not supposed to bypass your body to reach some “higher state.” You’re supposed to be exactly where you are, learning to love yourself there.
I fell into the same trap. I thought energy work was one-size-fits-all. One goal. One path. One way to “do it right.” I focused on the desired outcome — the healed version of myself — without giving space for my actual starting point or current location. I tried to fit myself into preconceived boxes instead of just... being where I was. And that didn’t work. Because people think they need to fit into preconceived boxes. But what they actually need is to just love where they are.
What I didn’t understand back then was how much of my struggle with energy work was actually about voice. About how long I’d gone without language for my own experience. When you don’t know how to name what you’re feeling — when you’ve learned to stay quiet, agreeable, adaptable — even healing becomes something you try to perform instead of inhabit.
These days, when I’m formulating a body oil, wrapping a crystal, blending incense, my intention is infused into everything I create. Energy is constant. Continuous. Passing through everything. So I don’t create when I’m holding onto anything without intention. I wait. I breathe. I return to myself first. That’s not woo-woo. That’s just recognizing that everything carries what you bring to it.
And the work I do now — Bloom Elemental, all of it — is rooted in this understanding: The journey is uniquely mine. And I love that for me. Not because I’ve “arrived.” But because I’ve finally stopped trying to.
If you’re reading this and wondering whether you’re “doing it right” — whether you’re working with chakras correctly, whether you’re grounded enough, whether you’re spiritual enough — stop. You don’t need to fit into someone else’s system. You don’t need to reach a specific endpoint. You don’t need to perform healing for anyone, including yourself.
What you need is to start the process of letting go of set paths. Learn to love where you start. Where you are? The endless possibilities of the journey that is uniquely yours. Because that — right there — is the actual work. Not the ascending. Not the activating. Not the perfecting. The inhabiting. The being exactly where you are and deciding that’s enough. That’s where healing actually begins.
**What does this bring up for you? Where are you on your own path right now? I'd love to hear it.**