Everybody's family is dysfunctional right?
That's what you tell yourself anyway, when your heart sinks as 'Mum' appears on your phone.
And you're ok now anyway.
Well, mostly.
You have a good job, friends, you go out.
You're a proper adult now. You traded in Top Shop and vodka cokes for Sancerre and AllSaints long ago.
So why does your brain start whispering to you late at night?
‘You don’t belong, your life’s a mess, nobody will ever really love you’.
Your carefully curated life feels fragile.
Somehow you're simultaneously successful yet one awkward family dinner from breaking down in your car.
You've bought the self help books that don’t help.
You listen to endless self improvement podcasts with unachievable suggestions by CEO's younger than you; dawn meditations, quiet quitting and a ‘just do it’ approach that makes you feel small and pathetic.
You can’t just do it and you don’t even know why.
You feel like a ball of wool; all tangled up. And though you search for the end you never seem to find it.
You need someone to referee the endless debate in your head: 'is it me, am I the problem? Or are my family dysfunctional?'
'Am I the problem?'
This self guided, online course provides clear, easy to understand guidance to help you start feeling better.
90 minutes of short audio lessons and slides, broken down into easy to digest sections that won't leave you feeling overwhelmed.
Gain the emotional clarity and the tools to stop doubting yourself, so you can finally trust your own feelings.
One-time payment: £37
Instant access, yours to keep forever
If you want to...
Free yourself from reading self help books that don't get you anywhere. (Now you can read books you actually enjoy.)
Stop blaming yourself for not trying hard enough and learn where the problems actually lie.
Ditch the 'quick tips' that never seem to get to the root of the problem.
Start understanding what's wrong and start feeling better about yourself.
CPD for therapists and counsellors
Looking for CPD on dysfunctional family dynamics including narcissistic families, abusive or emotionally neglectful families? This short course which is 1 1/2 hours of CPD will help you to understand your own situation and help you guide your clients to understand the impact of their upbringing
Course Curriculum
Course Breakdown
Part 1 - Beginnings
- Before we jump in, we’ll focus on how to take care of yourself during the course.
Part 2 - Aims
- We’ll set realistic goals so you don’t end up feeling like a failure (again).
Part 3 - The Hidden Damage
- We’re going to be honest here. Naming the damage is the first step in healing.
Part 4 - 'It Wasn’t That Bad…'
- Once you see how others manipulate you into thinking it’s fine, you’ll stop doubting yourself.
Part 5 - Family Myths vs. Reality
- We’ll deconstruct your family rules, so you can have a clearer picture of how it should be.
Part 6 - How Your Past Repeats Itself
- Once you start to connect the dots, you’ll understand where your struggles come from.
Part 7 - What Keeps You Stuck
- I’ll show you how to spot those self sabotaging beliefs which helps to break the cycle.
Part 8 - What Now?
- This is just the start. I’ll give you some ideas on how to keep the momentum going without feeling overwhelmed.
Hi, I'm Sarah
As a psychotherapist with 15 years’ experience helping people with childhood trauma, I’ve seen the same thing over and over: people talking themselves out of healing.
They tell themselves their trauma wasn’t that bad, or that it’s their fault.
And that’s what keeps them stuck.
I want to help you stop doubting yourself and actually start making progress.
FAQs
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Talking to your family but it's like herding cats; they’re all of a sudden forgetful, busy or just outright ignore you.
Either that or they throw out the old classic ‘Are you still on about that? That was years ago. Let it go!’
You won't need to involve your family, you can start to heal without any big conversations.
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You go back and forth between thinking you could have childhood trauma, and telling yourself you’re over dramatic.
Your feelings matter and if something feels wrong that's an important indication that it is wrong.
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The course consists of 90 minutes of short audio lessons and slides.
You don’t need to 'research more'. You don't need more ‘life style hacks’.
(In fact you probably need to do less not more).
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You're tired of asking everyone (chat gpt included) what you should do and still you're confused.
I designed this course to specifically address the questions I hear again and again.
I provide a clear path that won't feel like a second job.
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If you want to start understanding dysfunctional family dynamics for you or your clients this short course is an easy place to start. We look at ways people legitimise their family situation so you can recognise these when they come up with clients. I translate my 15 years of experience working with emotional neglect and childhood trauma in an easy to understand approach.