Leading Through Loss

Welcome to Leading Through Loss

Ministry teaches us how to lead, but rarely how to lose. When members leave, ministries shift, or trusted relationships change, leaders are often left to grieve silently while still serving publicly. Leading Through Loss offers a real, reflective look at the emotional weight of ministry transitions, and gives pastors, leaders, and caregivers the permission, language, and tools to process grief while continuing to lead with integrity and hope.

You're not alone. Your pain has purpose. Healing is possible.

What people are saying

Leading Through Loss is a practical and insightful guide for both seasoned pastors, who can reflect on their experiences of grieving with their congregations, and newly installed pastors, who are preparing to navigate loss in ministry. It emphasizes the vital role of self-examination in pastoral leadership. Church leaders of all kinds will also find this book a valuable and encouraging resource. As a professor of Christian Education, I believe this book would serve as an excellent resource for the course Psychology of Christian Education, particularly in its exploration of emotional development.”

Dr. Sandra Coley - Professor of Christian Education - Shaw University

Leading Through Loss is a sacred gift to pastors and spiritual leaders navigating the quiet grief of departure. It offers both companionship and clarity, guiding readers to name their pain, release blame, and rediscover purpose. A truly transformative read for anyone carrying unseen wounds.

-Bishop Dr. Reginald Charlestin, MDiv, MA, BCC, DMin

“Leading Through Loss serves as a transformative roadmap for navigating grief, anchored in deep theological insight and filled with practical wisdom. Its timeless relevance makes it an essential guide for pastors and spiritual leaders alike.

-Pastor Devin. D. Paylor, M.Div

Meet Matthew McFarlin

Matthew McFarlin has dedicated over 17 years to ministry, including seven years as a pastor. As a clinical chaplain and certified grief-informed professional, he is deeply passionate about helping individuals navigate the complexities of loss. With firsthand experience in both pastoral leadership and grief care, Matthew offers a unique perspective on the emotional challenges pastors face when members leave their church.

In his debut book, he provides guidance and support to help pastors process these transitions with grace and compassion. Matthew lives in North Carolina with his wife, Sharese, and their two children, Madison and Seth, where he continues his work in ministry and grief support.

Welcome to Leading Through Loss

The Leading Through Loss Companion Journal

The Leading Through Loss Companion Journal