There’s something incredibly powerful about touch in a marriage. And I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about the little touches that happen throughout an ordinary Tuesday: A kiss when you leave for work. A hug when you walk through the door. Si...

We tend to think emotional intimacy means having deep conversations. You know the kind: "Tell me how you really feel." "What's going on inside?" "Let's talk about our emotions." And yes—being able to talk openly about feelings is an important part o...

You know what we’re really good at doing? Moving on. You have an amazing night together. You feel connected. You laugh. You feel close. Maybe you lie there for a while enjoying that warm, peaceful feeling. And then morning comes. Coffee. Work. Kids....

When couples talk about intimacy, they often jump straight to two things: Emotional intimacy. Sexual intimacy. But there is another form of intimacy sitting right between them that doesn't get nearly enough attention: Physical intimacy. And I'm not ...

We talk a lot about communication. We talk about date nights, quality time, intimacy, sex, conflict resolution, love languages, and keeping the spark alive. But sometimes I think we make marriage much more complicated than it needs to be. Sometimes ...

There’s a question I want every married person to sit with for a minute. Would you want to be married to you? Not the version of you that shows up on date night. Not the version of you who is on your best behavior when you’re trying to impress someo...

Let me say something that might make some couples cringe: You should be scheduling sex. Yes. Putting sex on the calendar. And before you tell me that sounds completely unromantic, boring, or like something only couples with a dead bedroom would do, ...

You don't have to love everything your spouse loves. You don't have to understand every hobby, obsession, interest, television show, purchase, or random thing that suddenly has your spouse saying, "Look at this!" But please, whatever you do, don't m...

Let's talk about women's libido. Because a lot of women started believing that if they don't spontaneously walk around thinking about sex all day, something must be wrong with them. And that's simply not how desire works for everyone. Especially in ...

Let’s get personal. And I already know this topic may make some people uncomfortable. But I’m going to say something that I believe more couples need to hear: Your sexual health and wellness is your responsibility. Your body is your responsibility. ...

Physical attraction isn’t everything in a marriage. But it would be dishonest to pretend it doesn’t matter. Marriage is about far more than how two people look. Emotional safety, friendship, trust, communication, shared values, affection, respect, a...

When couples say, “We need more intimacy in our marriage,” what do they usually mean? For many couples, the answer is simple: sex. And that is where things can get complicated. One of the biggest reasons couples struggle to improve intimacy may be t...

There is a common misconception that long-term relationships lose passion because love fades. In reality, for many couples, love never disappears. What disappears is intentional pursuit. If you haven't had sex in weeks, months, or even years, it doe...

When people hear the phrase "Happy moms and dads have sex," they sometimes assume I'm suggesting parents should involve their children in conversations or experiences that aren't age appropriate. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying something much...

Most of us express love the way we naturally like to receive it. If physical touch makes you feel loved, you'll probably reach for your spouse's hand. If acts of service fill your emotional tank, you'll likely mow the lawn, wash the dishes, or fix s...