There comes a moment on the healing journey where we realize it’s not just about what we think it’s about how we feel. Not just emotionally, but physically. The tension in the shoulders that won’t go away. The knot in your stomach when you walk into a room. The way your breath shortens in moments that don’t seem dangerous at all.
Many of us are walking around not fully in our bodies. We’ve learned to survive by disconnecting from pain, from overwhelm, from pressure — and that disconnection served us at one point. But there’s a difference between survival and living. And true healing means becoming safe in your body again.
What It Means to Feel Unsafe in Your Body
Feeling unsafe doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it’s subtle:
- Constant tension or tightness in muscles
- Feeling numb or “checked out” during certain conversations
- Difficulty resting or relaxing, even when there’s time to
- Panic when things feel “too good,” like the other shoe will drop
- A sense of shame or discomfort in stillness or silence
These are often signs that your nervous system is in a state of chronic dysregulation stuck in fight, flight, or freeze.
Why We Disconnect
Our bodies remember what our minds try to forget. Trauma, stress, or even a lack of emotional safety growing up can teach us that it's safer to live from the neck up. So we intellectualize. We overthink. We plan. We predict. We control. But beneath all of that, our bodies are asking to be heard.
The truth is: we disconnect because we’re trying to protect ourselves. And that’s a form of wisdom. It’s just that now, we get to choose differently.
How to Become Safe in Your Body Again
When we feel safe within ourselves, we can express ourselves authentically in our relationships and social interactions. We no longer need to wear masks or play roles to fit in. We can be vulnerable, honest, and true to who we are. This authenticity attracts genuine connections. People are drawn to those who are real and transparent. When we show up as our true selves, we create space for others to do the same. Relationships built on authenticity are deeper, more meaningful, and more fulfilling.
Becoming safe in your body is a process. It’s not linear. It takes patience, tenderness, and time. Here are a few ways to begin:
1. Gentle Awareness
Start by simply noticing what your body feels like throughout the day. No judgment. Just curiosity. Is your jaw tight? Is your breath shallow? Can you soften just 2%?
2. Slow Movement
Practices like yoga, Pilates, and somatic stretching help you come back to yourself "gently". Movement can be an invitation, not a punishment. It says: “You’re allowed to take up space.”
3. EFT Tapping & Nervous System Regulation
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) allows you to tap on key acupressure points while naming what you’re feeling. It creates safety in your nervous system by combining affirmation, presence, and physical grounding. It helped me begin to trust my body again one round at a time.
4. Safe Touch
Even placing your hand on your heart or your belly and saying “I’m here, and I’m listening” can begin to rebuild connection. Your body has been waiting for your presence.
5. Create Moments of Stillness
Stillness can feel scary when we’re used to always “doing,” but it’s in the quiet that our body speaks. Try moments of silence, slow breathing, or mindful rituals that anchor you to the now.
I created something from my heart that will help: The Rooted EFT Queen Bundle — a soft, guided entryway into nervous system regulation and self-connection. It’s what I wish I had when I began this journey. You’ll find it gentle, grounding, and just the right first step.
The Beauty of Coming Home
There’s a version of you that’s not trying to escape your body she’s in it. Alive in her softness. Present with her needs. Rooted in her worth.
Finding safety within is a journey, not a destination. It requires ongoing self-compassion, self-reflection, and a willingness to embrace our imperfections. But the rewards are immeasurable. When we feel safe within ourselves, we unlock the door to authentic self-expression, build deeper connections, and live a more fulfilling life
You deserve to feel at home inside yourself. To not just exist in your body, but to belong to it.
This journey isn’t about perfection, it’s about repair. And the first step to repair is presence.
You’re not broken. You’re rebuilding safety. One breath, one moment, one loving choice at a time.
You deserve to feel safe in your body. Let’s walk home together.