I'm Saska. I'm a software engineer, and for most of my twenties I treated my anxious attachment like everyone told me to: journal more, love yourself first, leave anyone who pulls away.

None of it worked. What worked was approaching it like a debugging problem. Find the trigger. Trace the pattern. Test a different response. Log the results.

I'm now in a secure relationship with an avoidant partner — the exact situation everyone said was impossible. Not because he changed overnight, but because I stopped running the same failing loop and expecting a different output.

Now I am helping individuals and couples navigate the anxious and avoidant patterns in relationships.

Everything in this shop is the documentation I wish I'd had: what's actually happening when your partner pulls away, what to do in the moment you feel the spiral starting, and how to stop making distance mean something it doesn't.

No therapy-speak. No "just leave." Just the patterns, explained.