Trying to figure out your partner’s Enneagram type (without convincing them to take a quiz)? We’re here to help.

If your better half isn’t into “that personality stuff,” don’t worry. Years of people-watching, note-taking, and some not-so-subtle side-eye have led us to spot the classic signs of each type. Just browse our list and see which description has you saying, “Oh… that’s so them.”

Each Type Comes With:

🧠 Quick Signs

👀 Spot-Check Clues

💬 Words of Wisdom

Type 1 – The Perfectionist

Also known as the one who refolds the towels you just folded.

Quick Signs:

• Has strong opinions about sandwich geometry.
• Rewrites texts to avoid any hint of “passive aggression.”
• May (or may not) alphabetize spices for fun.

Spot-Check:

This person brings order to chaos, and occasionally a little nervous energy. You’ll find them cleaning before the cleaner arrives.

Wisdom:

Underneath that high standard is a huge heart that just wants things (and you) to be okay. Give them a hug when they’re tense—and let them organize something. It’s basically therapy.

Type 2 – The Helper

Also known as the Human Golden Retriever (with snacks and boundary issues).

Quick Signs:

• Packs your bag better than you ever could.
• Feels your feelings—and brings snacks accordingly.
• Asks “Are you mad at me?” when you yawn.

Spot-Check:

Smells like vanilla lotion, emergency chocolate, and unconditional devotion. Will literally give you the last slice—and maybe their soul, if you’re not careful.

Wisdom:

They help to connect, not to control. Let them know they matter even when they’re not “doing.” And don’t forget to love them back—they need it more than they admit.

Type 3 – The Achiever

Also known as the one who tracks their steps at the wedding reception.

Quick Signs:

• Lives by multiple calendars.
• Turns hobbies into competitions.
• Takes out the trash… then humbly waits for applause.

Spot-Check:

Success mixed with ambition, multitasking, and a little humblebrag. Often seen with a dazzling smile and a secret to-do list.

Wisdom:

They’re chasing more than gold stars—they want to feel worthy. Appreciate them when they’re “off duty.” (Bonus points for being impressed when they fold the laundry.)

Type 4 – The Individualist

Also known as the walking poem who cries at old songs and sunsets.

Quick Signs:

• Feels everything. Deeply.
• Has playlists for every possible mood.
• “I just feel… off” means seventeen things.

Spot-Check:

Bergamot, unfinished journals, and a bit of mystery. Often found staring dreamily out the window.

Wisdom:

They want to be understood—not fixed. Sit beside them, listen, and never tell them to “just cheer up.” If you’re invited into their inner world, consider it sacred.

Type 5 – The Investigator

Also known as the Human Encyclopedia (who just wants to be left alone… lovingly).

Quick Signs:

• Knows 48 obscure facts about bees.
• Disappears into research holes, emerges with a PowerPoint.
• Needs alone time like others need coffee.

Spot-Check:

Old books, computer fans, and “please don’t call unless it’s urgent.” Likely in a corner, earbuds in.

Wisdom:

They’re not pushing you away—they’re saving battery life. Respect their space and you’ll be surprised by their loyalty. (And yes, they secretly love a good cuddle… eventually.)

Type 6 – The Loyalist

Also known as the human smoke alarm—emotionally speaking.

Quick Signs:

• “What if…?” is their catchphrase.
• Always ready with snacks and backup plans.
• Trusts you deeply, but still triple-checks your location.

Spot-Check:

Eucalyptus, lavender, and a hint of worry. Always aware of the exits—and your emotional state.

Wisdom:

They love fiercely, protect loyally, and fear losing it all. Gentle reassurance works wonders. (And yes, they will always notice if you’re acting a bit weird.)

Type 7 – The Enthusiast

Also known as the one who starts planning their next vacation while still on the current one.

Quick Signs:

• Seventeen browser tabs open—in their head and on their laptop.
• Thinks “let’s just see what happens” is a plan.
• Turns minor chaos into spontaneous adventures.

Spot-Check:

Sunscreen, espresso, and possibility. They bring the sparkle—and the “let’s go!” energy.

Wisdom:

They run from pain by running toward everything else. Be their anchor, not their cage. Laugh, explore, and be present—the real magic happens in those quiet moments.

Type 8 – The Challenger

Also known as the human pitbull—fiercely protective, secretly a softie.

Quick Signs:

• Fights for you (even if you didn’t ask).
• Sarcasm for days, hugs like a freight train.
• “Don’t mess with me” is practically a cologne.

Spot-Check:

Leather jackets, thunderstorms, and justice. Will argue passionately… even with Google Maps.

Wisdom:

They’re not angry—they just prefer armor over vulnerability. Meet their intensity, respect their strength, and love them boldly. They’ll return it tenfold.

Type 9 – The Peacemaker

Also known as the human weighted blanket (conflict not included).

Quick Signs:

• Says “I’m good with whatever” (even if it’s not true).
• Avoids conflict by melting into the couch.
• Might forget what they want—but never forgets what you need.

Spot-Check:

Chamomile, shared playlists, and “whatever you want for dinner.” The calm in the storm.

Wisdom:

Their quiet doesn’t mean they don’t care—they’ve just hidden their opinions for so long, even they need help finding them. Create space for them to show up. When they do, celebrate it.