Hi, I’m Vigho Bernice — and this book saved me before it reached you.

I didn’t grow up with the fairytale version of love. I come from a home where love meant survival, silence, and sometimes self-abandonment. For years, I thought if I just did more, gave more, or smiled harder, someone would finally choose me, stay for me, and love me the way I longed for.

But that’s the thing about giving your all — when you have nothing left for yourself, even love starts to feel like a burden.

This book was born out of brokenness, reflection, growth, and healing. I studied philosophy, trained in psychology and coaching, and used my personal pain as research. I wrote this for the girl who always pours and never receives. For the guy who doesn't know how to ask for emotional support without being told to “man up.” For anyone who feels like they’re too much or not enough — sometimes in the same breath.