There is something sacred about watching the person you love fight for a life they can feel in their bones.
My wife has a calling in tech. And I want to be clear about that word — calling. Not a career move. Not a pivot. A calling. The kind of thing that wakes you up at night not because of anxiety, but because your mind is already working, already building, already reaching toward something it cannot yet fully see but refuses to let go of.
I watch her. The sleepless nights bent over a screen, the journals filled with ideas and intentions, the late reads after everyone else has gone quiet. I watch her miss events, step back from family moments, pour overtime into something that most people around her are still learning to understand. And I watch her eyes when she talks about it — there is a fire there that no amount of exhaustion can touch.
That fire is everything.
Tech is not a forgiving space. For a Black woman to walk into that world and say "I belong here, and I am going to carve out something that matters" — that takes a kind of courage that doesn't announce itself. It just shows up. Every day. In the early mornings and the late nights and the moments where doubt creeps in and she chooses to keep going anyway.
And behind every one of those moments, there is a family playing their role. There are things I pick up now that used to be hers. There is grace extended, schedules rearranged, events attended solo, dinners held together differently. Not because it is always easy — but because we believe in what she is building. Because the sacrifice now is the foundation for what comes later. Because her dream, if we tend to it right, does not just change her life. It changes all of ours.
I do not support her dream because I have to. I support it because I have seen what she looks like when she is fully alive in her purpose — and there is nothing in this world I would rather witness. I live to see her shine. I live to see her fulfilled. I live to watch her walk into rooms she was told were not built for her and own every inch of them.
That is what partnership looks like when you take it seriously. Not just showing up for the easy parts. But locking in during the becoming.
She is still becoming. And I have the best seat in the house.
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