I DON’T KNOW WHAT THE HELL I’M DOING

Nobody handed you a manual.

One day you were a daughter, son, partner, spouse, sibling, friend, niece, nephew, grandchild.

Then suddenly you were managing medications.

Appointments.

Insurance.

Meals.

Bathing.

Paperwork.

Phone calls.

Symptoms.

Equipment.

Emergencies.

Other family members.

And a thousand tiny decisions you never expected to be responsible for.

Everybody keeps asking you questions like you’re supposed to know the answers.

Half the time, you are figuring it out while you’re doing it.

I DON’T KNOW WHAT THE HELL I’M DOING. is for that caregiver.

Not the perfectly organized caregiver with matching folders and a color-coded calendar.

The real one.

The one Googling things in the bathroom.

The one writing medication times on scraps of paper.

The one trying to remember what the nurse said while making dinner and answering three family texts.

The one terrified of making the wrong decision.

This guide helps you get your feet underneath you.

Not by expecting you to become a doctor, nurse, social worker, case manager, and insurance expert overnight.

But by helping you figure out what you actually need to know, what to keep track of, what questions to ask, what deserves your attention first, and what can wait.

This guide is for you if:

• Caregiving happened faster than you were ready for.
• You constantly feel like you are behind.
• Everyone assumes you know things nobody ever taught you.
• You are afraid of missing something important.
• You need a starting point that does not make you feel stupid for being overwhelmed.

You are allowed to learn this while you live it.

Most of us did.

That is exactly why SAGE exists.