It has ended. Your mind has not caught up. This is the workbook that helps it.

It is 2am. You are checking their profile again.

You have re-read the same old messages. You have half-written a text you know you should not send. The relationship is over — you know that — but some part of you has not accepted it, and it is quietly running your days.

If you have ever thought why can't I just let go?, this workbook was written for you.

I am Jamie, a BACP-registered counsellor. When You Can't Let Go is the exact process I take clients through when a breakup will not loosen its grip. It is not a list of tips for "getting over it". It is a guided, honest, page-by-page look at what actually happened — so it can stop taking over your life.

Over 42 pages and six gentle parts, you will:

• Understand why this hurts as much as it does, and look honestly at the pull that keeps you checking, waiting and hoping
• See the whole relationship clearly — not the highlights reel — including the pattern between you, your part and theirs, the green and red flags, and the needs that went unmet
• Uncover where your way of loving was learned, catch the 2am thoughts as they happen, and finally test the "maybe they'll come back" story against the evidence
• Give yourself permission to grieve, with real tools for the urge to make contact, for overwhelming moments, and for the grey days
• Rediscover who you are now — your values, your non-negotiables, and what a good relationship would actually look like for you
• Close the chapter in your own words, and look back at how far you have come

Every part ends with a page that gathers what you are learning about yourself. By the last page, you will have written something no one else ever could: your own account of what happened, and what it taught you.

This is not about forgetting them. It is about understanding what happened well enough that it stops holding you.

What you get

• A 42-page guided workbook in two formats: a fillable PDF you can type straight into, and a print-at-home version for pen and paper
• Instant download after purchase
• Written in plain, warm, honest language — no jargon, no clichés, no false promises

Who it is for

Anyone struggling to move on from a relationship that has ended, whether it was last week or long ago. It draws on the person-centred and cognitive behavioural approaches I use in my practice, and it is paced to be worked through gently, at your own speed. There is no timetable.

Who it is not for

This is guided self-reflection, not therapy and not a crisis service.

Questions before you buy? You are welcome to get in touch through www.jplcounselling.co.uk.

A note on the fillable version: it works best in Adobe Acrobat Reader or Apple Preview. Some browsers and phone apps display PDF form fields differently, so for the best typing experience open it in a proper PDF reader — or print the print-at-home version and use a pen.