First Times Without Fear: Planning Tools for Nonmonogamy Firsts

First times don’t have to mean panic.

This short, printable booklet is designed to help you move through the emotionally charged “firsts” that come with nonmonogamy... Without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending everything’s fine when it’s not.

Whether it’s your first solo overnight, your partner’s first hookup outside your relationship, or the first time you meet a metamour face to face, this tool helps you check in with your needs, clarify boundaries, and create an aftercare plan.

Inside you’ll find:

• A gentle emotional check-in for what might come up
• Reflection prompts to interrupt spirals and clarify stories
• Conversation starters for partners
• A custom aftercare builder
• Warm, nonjudgmental support throughout

No fluff. No pressure to “do nonmonogamy right.” Just real tools for real humans.



Because we can always Do Better.