What Not to Say to Your Ex (in Writing)

Some messages feel justified in the moment and quietly cost you later.

What Not to Say to Your Ex (in Writing) is a one-page tool designed to help you pause before sending a text, email, or co-parenting app message that escalates conflict, weakens your position, or becomes part of the permanent record.

This tool focuses on restraint as control. It helps you recognize the most common communication traps and avoid language that invites argument, power struggles, or continued engagement.

Inside, you’ll find:

• Clear examples of what not to say in high-conflict written communication
• Common phrases that escalate situations or undermine your credibility
• A simple final check to help you decide whether a message should be sent at all

This isn’t about winning an argument or proving you’re right. It’s about staying grounded, factual, and intact when the stakes are high.

Includes two formats:

• A phone-friendly version for quick, in-the-moment reference
• A print-friendly version with clean margins for binders or folders

Use this when emotions are running hot and clarity matters more than saying everything you feel.