Interpersonal Effectiveness Made Simple — DBT Workbook (Book 4), 40 Printable Pages

Ask for what you need. Say no. Keep the relationship anyway. 40 printable pages of guided practice and plain-English explanation — from lived experience of BPD, not from a textbook.

This is the module for people who were taught that having boundaries was rude. It is not about becoming assertive overnight. It's about having the actual words ready before the conversation starts.

WHAT'S INSIDE

DEAR MAN — how to ask for something without the conversation collapsing.

GIVE — how to keep the relationship intact while you do it.

FAST — how to keep your own self-respect in the same conversation.

BALANCING PRIORITIES — working out which of those three matters most this time, because it isn't always the same one.

SAYING NO WITHOUT GUILT — and surviving the silence afterwards.

VALIDATION — for other people, and for yourself.

RELATIONSHIP MINDFULNESS and WALKING THE MIDDLE PATH — the long game.

ALSO IN THIS BOOK

- A guided practice page for every single skill, not just explanations

- Space to map out your own relationships before you start

- Daily DBT reflection pages

- An interpersonal effectiveness toolbox: every skill, and when to reach for it

- Notes pages, and original colouring pages between the harder bits

- A 3-page taster of The DBT Diary Card Journal at the end

WHO IT'S FOR

- Anyone living with BPD, EUPD, anxiety, or emotions that arrive louder than they should

- People who apologise for a boundary about four seconds after setting it

- People on a DBT waiting list who want to start now

- Anyone doing this on their own, at their own pace, with nobody watching

HOW TO USE IT

Write the conversation out on the DEAR MAN page before you have it. That one habit does more than the rest of the book put together.

HOW IT WORKS

- Instant download, available the moment payment clears

- One A4 PDF, 40 pages

- Print at home, print at a shop, or work through it on a tablet

- Yours forever — reprint as often as you need, for as long as you need

THE PRICE

£6.99. About seventeen pence a page, and you print it as many times as you like.

The price you see is the price you pay. If you're in the UK or the EU, VAT is already included — nothing gets added at the last screen.

A GENTLE NOTE

This is a self-help workbook written from lived experience of BPD. It isn't therapy and it doesn't replace professional support — it sits alongside it. Crisis contacts are included inside.

Because this is an instant download, returns aren't possible, but if anything is wrong with your file, message me and I'll sort it out.

You're not broken. You're mid-process. 🖤

Ellen

BPD & I