Is My Ex A Narcissist

Why do you feel worse after every conversation with your ex—even when you know what happened?

They deny the message you can see on your phone. They turn your concern into an attack on your character. They are charming to everyone else and relentless with you. By the end of the exchange, you are explaining yourself again, apologising again, or wondering whether your memory can be trusted.

You may be asking, “Is my ex a narcissist?” I take that question seriously. I also know that you cannot put your life on hold while you wait for a diagnosis, an admission or the apology that never comes.

This guide is about how to live with the reality of a difficult ex—and reduce the hold they still have over your life.

I explain gaslighting, DARVO, coercive control and the tactics that can continue long after a relationship ends. I show you how to recognise a pattern, decide when to respond, set boundaries you can actually keep, preserve useful evidence and stop being pulled into the same exhausting argument. We also deal with the grief of losing the relationship you hoped you had. That part does not disappear simply because leaving was the right decision.

Where children, money or court proceedings keep you connected, I give you practical guidance for those situations too. The book includes common questions, worked examples, response templates and a toolkit for the moments when you need to decide what to do next.

Dear reader, you do not need to win one final argument to begin getting your life back. In my experience, “one final argument” has a remarkable habit of acquiring a sequel.

Written by Jason M Hadden MBE, a barrister practising family law in England and Wales. Detailed England and Wales legal guidance, with notes for international readers.

130-page digital guide · £14.99