🌿 Finding Our Own Pace
After more than 11 years sharing my journey and research online and more than 20 years living it, I’ve distilled everything I’ve learned about living well with chronic illness into one comprehensive, gentle guide.
Finding My Own Pace is for anyone navigating fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, HSD, dysautonomia, brain fog, insomnia, or any complex chronic condition. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or have been managing symptoms for years, this book offers practical tools and heartfelt encouragement to help you build a life around your energy — not your limits.
What You’ll Discover Inside:
- My journey through misdiagnoses, operations and a closer look at what these conditions are.
- Strategies for managing common symptoms including brain fog, insomnia, and dysautonomia
- Gentle approaches to pacing, mindfulness, movement, and treatment options
- How to rebuild your life with purpose, joy, and self-compassion despite chronic illness challenges
Why This Book?
This is more than my story — it’s the culmination of 11+ years of personal experience, research, and conversations with readers and experts. It’s the resource I wish I’d had when I first started navigating life with chronic illness, now offered as a guide to support you on your own journey.
This is your digital (EPUB/KPF/PDF) copy of Finding My Own Pace, along with your goodie bag, designed to make the lessons from the book practical.
If you prefer a paperback or hardcover edition, you can find one here.
Why buy direct from me here?
Because you get additional goodies. I get to keep more of the sale (other stores take a cut of sales) and you get to join the free Going Our Own Pace community and newsletter with articles and resources added regularly.
What people say about Melissa's work
This [Fibromyalgia Won't Win] is the book I wish I had at the beginning of my journey. Full of current and relevant information related to chronic pain and fibromyalgia. There are no gimmicks, no promises, no fast pitches, only factual real life relatable data that helped me make more informed decisions about my medical care.
— Latoya
An empowering book stuffed full of tools for people with FM and other energy/pain diagnoses. A very easy to read collection of personal experience, anecdotes and research.
— Robyn
Thank you Melissa for sharing your knowledge with us all. you are such a caring and generous person and truly on a mission to help others. Thank you for all that you have done to help me personally. This will go in my tool box of resources!
— Finding My Own Pace review
What You Get
In addition to three versions of the book (KPF, EPUB & PDF), you get a whole heap of book bonuses, chapter resources and additional bonuses.
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2Book bonuses
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3Chapter Resources
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4Additional bonuses
On accessibility
In my commitment to accessibility - and to make it easier for you to read, I have incorporated the following things into the document:
- Slightly larger font (you can increase or decrease on digital format)
- Generous spacing
- Use of bullet points/lists
- Brain fog friendly summaries
- The Goodie Bag Bonuses are designed to help you make the information practical
This is a big book - just under 300 pages. I would prefer a physical copy (especially because this is the kind of book I would highlight and put post its in) - so you may prefer to purchase a physical copy. You can find one here.
By owning your copy, you don't have a deadline to finish reading it. However, you can get copies from your libraries. Please feel free to request your library order my book in either ebook or paperback formats.
More Thoughts on Melissa's Work
I think it was exceptional. I am dealing with the idea that this will never go away. I think that is my biggest struggle. Other ailments or conditions I have had in the past there has been an operation or cure. It's a bit overwhelming on my flare days.
— Fibro Fighter
I really love everything that you have for all of us suffering from this painful life we live.
— Reader
Love how practical these tips are and how they take into account how "life" comes into play with pacing.