We CAN Communicate

A reflective guide and workbook for conversations that matter.

Explore how to stay with what is happening now, speak more clearly from your own experience and listen with the intention of understanding. The workbook uses the idea of Calm Assertive Noticing as something to return to when communication becomes more difficult.

We CAN Communicate looks at how earlier experiences can enter a present conversation, how “I” language can help make an experience clearer without defining the other person, and how listening can remain interested rather than becoming preparation for the next response.

It also explores checking what has been heard, making room for differences between intention and impact, and recognising when a pause may help protect the possibility of returning to the conversation more thoughtfully.

There are reflective questions throughout, along with practical pages to use before and after a conversation. The aim is not to communicate perfectly, but to become more aware of what is happening in me, what I want to express and what my partner may be trying to help me understand.

What’s included

• the CAN reminder: Calm Assertive Noticing
• reflection on staying with the here and now
• a practical structure for speaking from “I”
• listening to understand and checking what has been heard
• reflection on intention and impact
• recognising when a pause may help
• pages to use before and after a conversation

Format

15-page digital PDF workbook designed for reading on screen or printing at home on A4 paper.

Your purchase is for your own personal use.