If you want to stop googling ‘why do I hate myself' at 2:17am
You need this.
You know that little voice that starts up whenever you can't sleep:
- 'Maybe my childhood was fine'
- 'Why do I keep dragging this stuff up?'
- 'Shouldn't I just let sleeping dogs lie?'
- 'Am I just exaggerating all this?'
- 'Does it actually matter?'
Honestly, it does matter (and not just because I'm a therapist).
Here’s the truth - your childhood is still messing with your life.
Every time you flinch at a snarky email, tell your partner to fuck off instead of saying, 'I didn't like it when you snapped at me', watch a relationship go sideways even though you did all the work, or wake up wondering… what’s the point again?
That’s not you getting it wrong. That’s your past catching up with you.
This course won’t fix your life in 30 minutes. But in half an hour, you’ll start to see how your past is sneaking into your daily life, and get a map of the skills you didn’t get taught as a kid.
Skills that actually make life feel less like running a marathon without any training.
This 30 minute course gives you the chance to:
See the skills you never got taught
Finally understand what actually makes life manageable, and stop blaming yourself for struggling when everyone else seems fine.
Pinpoint what went wrong
Understand where things went off track so the chaos feels less overwhelming. It’s not that you’re broken, you just need to practice the skills you weren’t taught.
Know where to start
Stop wandering in circles or trying to fix everything at once. This course gives you a clear first step.
Understand how your past shows up now
Stop wondering why you overreact, pick the wrong people, or feel flat for no reason. Seeing the patterns makes them easier to manage.
Get a clear framework in 30 minutes
Like a life skills checklist, the stuff most people figure out over years, condensed into one session.
Course Curriculum
Course Breakdown
Part 1 – Intro & what to expect
We’ll set realistic goals so you don’t end up feeling like a failure (again).
Part 2 – Why figuring this out actually helps
See why blaming yourself gets you nowhere and why spotting patterns early lowers the chaos.
Part 3 – How life got stuck on hard mode
Understand where your reactions, habits, and choices come from and why it’s normal that you need to practice skills you weren’t taught.
Part 4 – The life skills they never taught you
Discover the core skills that actually make life feel manageable, figure out which ones you already have, and which ones you need to work on.
Part 5 – The tricky stuff you don’t need first
A peek at the advanced skills so you know what comes later: no overwhelm, no pressure.
Part 6 – Family patterns & what to do next
See how missing skills show up in families and get clear on your next steps toward using what you’ve learned.
Hi, I'm Sarah
As a psychotherapist with 15 years’ experience helping people with childhood trauma, I’ve seen the same thing over and over: people getting stuck and blaming themselves.
It's not your fault that you don't know where to start. Nobody teaches you what you need to be able to do to live well when you're at school.
And your family probably didn't know either.
I want to help you stop getting stuck in a loop of wondering where to start and actually start making progress.
FAQs
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Most people who come to therapy have been working on themselves for years - it's not lack of effort that keeps them stuck.
But with vague ideas of 'figuring it out for yourself' is it any wonder you're confused?
Figure what out? Where to start? Doesn't anyone have any guidelines?
My list of skills are built out of years of teaching therapy clients what they need to know to feel ok. You don't have to reinvent the wheel, I can give you the shortcuts.
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If you're not sure if you have childhood trauma, but you feel somewhat lost like you didn't get the instruction manual for life, this can help you.
If you know you have childhood trauma, there will definitely be skills you're missing and this is a great place to start.
Some families don't mean to cause harm, but don't give their kids the tools to feel competent. You don't have to keep suffering.
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The course is 30 minutes long. That's less than your favourite Netflix show!
It's made up of short audio lessons and slides. There's also a skills checklist.
Whilst I can't teach you all these skills in half an hour, I can teach you where you're lost. And the relief at understanding this can really help people believe there's a way out of the confusion.
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Trauma books (or self help books) are often a mixture of anecdotes and stuff that many readers don't really understand.
People frequently tell me they're still confused about what they actually need to do differently despite their mini trauma library.
Think of this course like a recipe; these are the skills you need to feel like an adult (most of the time - noone's perfect!)
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If you want an easy checklist of skills that people need to feel ok in the world this is a good place to start.
If you're a therapist and still struggling with not knowing why you're not ok then this can help you see which skills you need to focus on.
If you are already crystal clear on why some people are ok vs not ok then this might be a bit basic for you.
It's 30 minutes CPD for therapists.
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I'll talk you through the skills and you'll get a pdf so you can see which skills you have/don't have.
I can't teach all the skills in this (very) short course as it would take too long. Plus once you know what they are you also need to practice them.
This course is to save you time going down rabbit holes trying to figure out wtf is wrong with your good on paper life. It gives you a starting point and provides hope that you can improve how you feel and act in the world.