Have you ever noticed how telling your story can make your heart feel lighter? Or how listening to someone else’s story suddenly helps you understand them better? Storytelling isn’t just for books or stages—it’s one of the simplest ways we can connect, heal, and move forward in everyday life.
Earlier this week, I had a call from a client who came in quick and sharp. His tone was defensive, and at first, I found myself matching his energy. You know that tug-of-war feeling where nobody’s winning? That’s exactly how it felt.
But then I paused.
Instead of pushing back, I lowered my tone and gave him space. What he shared had nothing to do with bills. He was recovering from a medical accident that left him helpless, alone, frustrated, etc. Heck, he wasn't so happy with early retirement for his age!
When he finished sharing his story with me, my heart split in two. Of course, he apologized for his sharpness, and I apologized for not taking the time to understand his situation quicker. We finished going over the account together and gave each other peace and kindness (even if it was on a recorded line for quality assurance purpose).
Anyway, that moment reminded me of the real power of storytelling.
As a mother of four (going on five), I’ve learned that yelling doesn’t fix things. You have to find a middle ground with everyone. Showing honesty and compassion while setting boundaries is something I've started doing with my children. There are moments I still raise my voice. However, I don't do it so much anymore because they're going to feel triggered when they're around others who wants to help them or correct their mistakes.
Active listening taught me to process what's being said and not be so quick to fix problems. I remembered going through my stillbirth pregnancy with my ex-husband in 2022. While he was physically there with me in the hospital room, he wasn't fully there with me while juggling these physical, mental, and emotional shifts.
I felt alone.
I felt empty.
I needed someone to talk to when I found it hard to sleep at night or face the following morning.
It took some time, and I'm mostly through the healing process, but the experience itself taught me a lot of life lessons about how people handle grief and loss.
Another thing I wanted to point out is bridging the connection between the speaker and the listener. Too often, people see storytelling as a spotlight moment, a quick shot at attention. In reality, storytelling can
happen anywhere at any time! Build the connection with the speaker by listening to the story. Allow yourself to bridge an emotional or spiritual connection between their testimony and wisdom. Don't be so quick to solve their problems or provide unwanted advice.
This week, I want you to try something simple. Share a piece of your story with someone, or give someone else the gift of listening. It can be over the phone, in a text message or written hand letter, with a therapist, close friend and family member, or even with Mama Hari during a session. You might be surprised at how much lighter the conversation feels.
Until next time, keep sharing your story, and keep making room for others to share theirs.
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