I've said it before: Being a mistress is a calling. Choosing to be the mistress, aka "side chick" and get all the benefits that come with being a purposeful side chick aka "mistress" is a calling. It is not for everyone. The women who choose to be side chicks, know they are side chicks, and have made a decision to be that and do not mind, are called to that lifestyle. They are called, "Choice Side Chicks." They are called to live like that, they lose no dignity, and they get everything they want. They truly do not want to be bothered with the responsibilities of being the main chick, aka "wife," "girlfriend" or even "fiancé."
The Choice Side Chick has been around since the beginning of time.
Now, the other mistress, aka "side chick" is called the "Unchosen Side Chick." This is not a calling or a choice of this type of woman. This type of woman does not know she's a side chick or she does know and accepts the role in hopes of competing with the main chick in that she, the unchosen side chick will push out the main chick. Neither one of these women are chosen to be side chicks or "mistresses." So, they lose their dignity, and they don't get what they want.
The chosen side chick thrives and flourishes personally and professionally. Why? She is tapped into part of her calling. While the unchosen side chick suffers a broken heart, has regret and sometimes physical and financial karma for choosing to be a side chick in hopes of pushing out the main chick. The unchosen is always walking around trying to so-called warn other women about being side chicks. To that I say, "No, mind your business. You got caught up doing something you knew in your spirit wasn't right for you and now you're suffering the consequences."
Society vilifies the chosen side chick. It acts as if this country is run by some sense of morality, and it is not. Even the bible talks often about concubines, mistresses, aka now what we call side chicks. They have a place in society for a reason. One doesn't have to agree with the reason and whether you agree with the reasoning is neither here nor there and nobody truly cares, because your feelings mean nothing in a society that has no morals and by women who are doing chosen work.
The reality is that side chicks are going nowhere and if you recognize that sharing a man is not who you are, then I suggest you learn how to manifest from your pussy and/or use whatever form of magic you need to manifest the type of man who will be loyal to you and never have a side chick as long as he is yours. I suggest that if you're a Christian that you learn how to properly pray and properly pray what so many of y'all like to call, "Ciara's Prayer for a Man," just your version.
For the unchosen who desire to compete with the main chick - STOP! You will lose every time. A chosen side chick does not compete. She faces reality in that he will never leave his main piece and nor does she want him to. Stop wasting your time and energy on something you are not meant to do and a man you are not meant to have. If you tried to get him to leave his main and he is not - that is a clear sign that you are unchosen. He will never leave her for you, at least not willingly. The Ciara prayer will not work for you. You may have to use some magic on him and even with that, if you don't do that right, you may get him, but you will not keep him and you may get him, but it may not be all that it's cracked up to be.
If you are the moral police - You are definitely an unchosen.
Focus on your money instead. Focus on wealth. Clean that man out of your system by way of a Venus Soak and focus on your individual calling that is not related to a man. You've already figured out by now that you are an unchosen. Mistress life is not for you. Find out what's for you and focus on that. Accept the reality that being single may be what's best for you or make your reality and get you a man that makes you number one. To make your reality will require magic.
Go where you are treated best.
Go with who wants you.
Never go where you are not wanted.
Never stay where you are not wanted.
Never stay where you are not desired.
Either accept reality or make your reality. Those are the only two choices in life you have.