Happy Thursday and first blog post!
For my first post, I thought I would expand on what I do and where it comes from. An opportunity for anyone reading to get a better understanding of why I coach on hormonal health, and how I got to this point with myself.
On my birthday last month, I woke up early to watch the sunrise over the ocean at The Point in Santa Cruz, Ca, a local surf spot. I sat and wrote my thoughts, while marveling at the sun rising over the ocean. Listening to the birds, smiling at the fellow enjoyers. And as I exhaled from a deep breath a sentence fell out of my mouth. "I want to teach people how to love themselves." So simply put, with such ease, and so sensible. My journey to coaching has been, a journey.
When I began, I assumed I would coach on anxiety since I had experienced it from a very young age and had now build a "toolbox" or "safety kit" to ground myself in times where anxiety struck. I am also the one to have anxiety relief with me at all times both in my purse and through my words and mental practices. Regardless of how much sense this made, something about it lacked fulfillment. Or it seemed like there was more that I could be doing. A-ha! Another thought occurred to me, "maybe I should coach on self love." At the time, I was undergoing a shift of perspective of life as I had known it. For the first time in years, I was single and lost. I moved to a new state (South Carolina) for college. I knew nobody, and for awhile, I continued to know nobody. As we often do when we are in lack, I immediately indulged heavily once I returned home for my first winter break.
Once I returned to school, it all hit me. The overindulgence, the lack, and finally, motivation. I remember, the first night back, I sat in this new room of mine sobbing over how it wasn't the same. And how I missed home already. But then something happened! A wave of hope washed over me. I began to think different. This shift in perspective that I could either sit in night after night, day after day, focusing on how lonely I was and how everyone around me had somebody or something to focus on. Or I could begin to date myself, to get to know me better, to work towards my goals every day, little by little. So that, by the time my people come in, I am grounded in who I am and know how I want to be loved, allowing me to attract in my tribe. And I did!
Again, I thought I found what it was that I wanted to do. I would coach people on how to love themselves. But it still wasn't allowing all of my passions to flow in one place. All it took was one important coffee conversation to open me up to that "when you know, you know" moment. My passion for painless periods and natural hormone regulation was sitting under the surface, somewhere in the "But I couldn't do that" department of my brain. But then came the next question, "why not?" And everything began to fall into place. I could pursue all of my goals within this one passion of mine. I believe that this alignment with your hormones is one of the purest forms of self love.
Over the course of my next posts, I will continue to share my personal experience with loving myself in alignment with my cycle. My belief is that you must coach on what you're experienced in. And continue to grow with your clients and yourself. There is always more to learn, there is always more to achieve, and there is always a new perspective to take. My job is to be honest and raw, allowing you to do the same, and we will all grow and learn, not alone, but together.
Much love, Sophia Montes
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