• How to start the conversation, even when it feels awkward
• What's actually happening hormonally, explained simply for a partner
• Real scripts for the moments that are hardest to talk about
• What helps day-to-day — practical, not vague reassurance
• How to stay connected through mood changes, low libido and sleepless nights
• When and how to involve a GP together

Who this is for: couples where one (or both) of you is navigating perimenopause or menopause, and you want fewer arguments born from not understanding what's going on — and more of the closeness you had before.

Hi, I'm Andrew. My wife and I have been together for more than thirty years. When perimenopause quietly moved into our home, we felt lost — and I couldn't find one clear, honest guide for both of us. So we read the NHS and NICE guidance together and turned it into the plain-English guide we wish we'd had. Written from the partner's side of the kitchen table, but for both of you to read together.

— Andrew & his wife, VitanWella

Good to know

• Instant PDF download — read on your phone, tablet or laptop
• One-time payment, no subscription
• Also available as a £1.97 add-on when you buy Hormone Reset 40+ or Hot Flush, Cold Shoulder
• Questions or problems with your download? Email hello@vitanwella.co.uk — we reply within 48 hours

I'm not a doctor. This guide provides general information and is not a substitute for individual medical or relationship counselling advice. If you have health concerns, please speak to your GP.