A guided grief workbook for mothers who have lost a child.

This is the full workbook. It's also available in three smaller parts: Part 1 Remembering My Child, Part 2 Understanding My Grief, and Part 3 Living Alongside Grief. Buying the complete edition saves you about 25%.

There is no right way to grieve your child, and no timeline you have to follow. These 123 gentle pages give you a place to say their name, tell their story, make sense of what you're feeling, and find small ways to keep going, one page at a time. Skip anything that feels like too much. Come back whenever you're ready.

A gentle introduction before every worksheet. Each page opens with a short, loving explanation of why that page matters and how it supports healing, grounded in respected grief research like Continuing Bonds and the Dual Process Model, and closing with one calming breath. You'll never be handed a worksheet without knowing why it's there.

WHAT'S INSIDE (123 PAGES: 58 WORKSHEETS, EACH WITH ITS OWN GENTLE INTRODUCTION)

Start Here

• A letter from one mother to another

• How to use this book

• Where I am right now

• My grief check-in

My Child

• Say their name

• My child's story

• Their favorite things

• What I want people to know about my child

• Memories I want to keep

• My memory jar

• Milestones they didn't get to have

What Grief Is Doing to Me

• What I have lost and what grief is

• There's no right way to grieve

• The waves of grief

• My grief timeline

• Naming my emotions

• My grief iceberg

• Mixed feelings are normal

• Where grief lives in my body

• My grief triggers, and the ones no one else sees

• My everyday trigger plan

• My hardest moments

• The hard dates (birthdays, holidays, Mother's Day, anniversaries)

• "How many kids do you have?"

The Heavy Thoughts

• Grief and my thoughts

• A mother's guilt

• Releasing responsibility

• If only…

• The what-if spiral

• Unanswered questions

• My anger

• Faith and my grief

Living Alongside It

• When grief comes out of nowhere

• Breathing through a grief wave

• Grounding through the five senses

• My window of tolerance

• My coping toolbox and comfort menu

• Healthy coping or avoidance?

• When I need a break from grief

• Coping with difficult days

• My circle of support

• What helps and what hurts

• When people say the wrong thing, and what I can say back

• Grace for them, grace for me

• Asking for what I need

• Grieving differently from my partner

• Parenting while grieving

• Boundaries while grieving

• When the world moves on

• Going back out into the world

Carrying Them Forward

• Making meaning without forcing it

• A letter to my child

• A letter from my child

• What my child gave me

• Keeping them in our family

• Their legacy

Support

• Support and crisis resources

• How to love a grieving mom (a page to share with the people around you)

• Find your circle

WHAT YOU'LL RECEIVE

4 PDF files, 123 pages each, plus a one-page note from me:

• Full color – US Letter (8.5 x 11 in)

• Full color – A4

• Printer-friendly (light background, saves ink) – US Letter

• Printer-friendly – A4

WHO IT'S FOR

Mothers who have lost a child at any age, recently or years ago

A thoughtful sympathy gift for a friend, sister, or daughter who has lost a child

Grief groups and support circles for bereaved mothers

HOW IT WORKS

1. This is a digital download. Nothing will be shipped to you.
2. Right after checkout you'll see a download button, and a download link is emailed to you too. (If you don't see the email, check your spam or promotions folder.)
3. Print at home or at a local print shop, or write on the pages on a tablet with a PDF app like GoodNotes or Notability.
4. Print a single page or the whole book, as many times as you need for your own personal use.

YOUR PURCHASE MATTERS

A portion of ALL proceeds will go to one of the following non-profit organizations that have been important in our story.

https://www.idahopediatriccancercoalition.org/

https://camprainbowgold.org/

https://jaefoundation.com/

PLEASE NOTE

• This workbook is a gentle companion. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for care from a licensed professional. If you are in crisis or thinking about ending your life, please call or text 988 (U.S.) or your local emergency number.
• For personal use only. Please don't share, resell, or redistribute the files. Grief group leaders and counselors, please email me about group use.
• Because this is a digital file, returns and exchanges aren't accepted. If anything is wrong with your download, email me and I'll make it right.
• Colors may look slightly different depending on your screen and printer.

MORE FROM THE I AM GRIEVING, NOW WHAT? SERIES

• The First 30 Days: gentle pages for the earliest days

• Little Hearts, Heart to Heart and Unsaid: guides for helping your other children grieve