But That's Not Fair!

When your child declares, “But that’s not fair!”, the conversation can quickly turn into arguing, frustration or a full emotional explosion.

But That’s Not Fair! is a warm, practical parent guide designed to help children aged 6–14 manage strong feelings about fairness while developing flexible thinking, perspective-taking and respectful communication.

Inside, you’ll discover:

• why fairness can feel so intense for some children

• the difference between equal, fair and genuinely unfair

• what to say when emotions are running high

• practical scripts for common family situations

• ways to help your child pause, check the facts and consider another perspective

• guidance for responding when something truly is unfair

• simple tools families can return to again and again

The guide uses the child-friendly idea of a Fairness Protector—the part of us that notices when something does not feel right. Rather than dismissing this valuable quality, parents learn how to help children express it calmly, thoughtfully and effectively.

Written by psychologist and educator Robynne Dixon, this resource combines practical psychology with realistic parenting moments—without judgement, complicated language or unrealistic expectations.

Format: Digital PDF download

Suitable for: Parents and carers of children aged 6–14

Please note: This is a digital product. No physical item will be posted.

This resource provides general educational information and is not a substitute for individual psychological or medical advice.