The Hard Conversation Planner | Difficult Conversation Worksheets for ADHD and Autistic Adults | Printable PDF

You've rehearsed it in the shower forty times. Then the moment comes and your mind goes blank, or everything comes out at once, or you hear yourself say "never mind, it's fine." 🫖

Hard talks ask your brain to think, feel, listen and find words all at the same time. This planner does some of that work ahead of time, on paper: what you actually want, the three points that matter most, the first sentence word for word, and a setup that suits how you think. Use it for asking your boss for a change, telling a friend they hurt you, bringing up money with a partner, or anything else you've been putting off.

What's inside (13 pages):

• What's this about? Best outcome, good-enough outcome and what you don't want
• Facts vs. stories: what a camera would see, and the story your brain adds
• My main points, my ask, and my first sentence
• Openers and scripts, including "I need a minute to think" and "can we pick this up tomorrow?"
• What they might say, and whether there's a fair point in it
• Set it up for your brain: time, place, side by side, a call with notes, or writing it first
• Say it in writing: a draft page and a before-you-send check
• The debrief, written right after so the worst five seconds don't become the whole memory
• Follow-up and repair scripts
• Conversation log
• Cut-out pocket cue cards

Good to know:

• Instant download: ZIP with US Letter and A4 PDFs plus a READ ME
• Print a fresh copy for each conversation, or write on it in a PDF app
• Personal use, or pick a professional license below
• A planning tool, not therapy, legal or mental health advice. If you feel unsafe with the person, please reach out to someone you trust or a local support line first.

How this was made: Made by Alice Market Creative with AI assistance: the cover and page illustrations were created with AI image-generation tools, and the writing was drafted with AI help, then reviewed and edited by the seller.

License options:

• Personal use ($7): for you and your own household.
• Clinician / Educator ($22): one therapist, counselor, coach, OT, teacher or job coach. Use it with all your own clients or students, unlimited copies.
• Practice / School ($59): up to 5 named professionals at one practice, school or clinic, plus one copy on your shared drive. Bigger team? Reply to your receipt for a quote.

Professional licenses include a short license certificate. Please don't post the files publicly or resell them.