What happens when you are let down by those you love or those you hoped will take care of your heart, or even heal your heart? What happens when you are betrayed by the one you hoped will save you?
We have people in our lives that we put our trust in helping us navigate life as a mentor or figures (eg. father figures).
But what happens when we are betrayed by those we loved the most or put all our trust in the most?
That becomes so shattering, so painful.
Being let down by the ones we looked up to is heartbreaking.
But what can we do? We have to accept our broken heart and learn to keep it safe....safe where it is safe which is nowhere near any body but God.
This is atleast the lesson I have heard.
To stop putting so much faith and trust or perfection from a human being, and put that trust on God.
Maybe that is the lesson I need to learn, to rely on God than human.
I am not preaching for mistrust amongst human beings, I am saying that putting a lot of expectations on a being that can be easily influenced by any external parties, is not reliable to begin with.
Here are the things that happen when you are let down by the one you trusted:
The loss of healing/care: The people you thought will heal you or be there for you to guide you end up being the ones playing with your heart again.
The reality of being letdown: The people you expected to help you, let you down. You forgot that they are human beings so capable of making mistakes and being overrun by evil, breaking promises, and betraying us.
The Impact of Disappointment: Finding ourselves grappling with feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and profound sadness as we come to terms with the realization that the person we hoped would heal us or be there for us has failed us instead.
SO NOW WHAT?
FEEL THE BETRAYAL: It is ok to feel that pain but remember your worth is not defined by others no matter how much significance you have given them in your life. remember to take care of yourself and heal from the betrayal caused. Seek therapy and love yourself more than ever.
FIND MEANING IN THE PAIN: Learn the lesson you need to learn which is to not put others on a pedestal and put your trust in someone, but instead, to put it on God or the Creator.
MOVE FORWARD IN RESILIENCE: Become stronger as a result of this experience and know how to not let anyone walk all over you anymore. Ask yourself how you can be more self reliant despite your need to be cared for? How can you heal your inner child who needed to be saved and loved and give that to yourself?
Conclusion
Being let down by a father figure or mentor can be really tough, but it's also an opportunity to learn and grow.
Remember to not defined by others' actions, and healing takes time.
Stay open to new connections and keep moving forward.
Remember, you are not the only one with such problems in life.
So many others have passed knowing and having lived through pain, insignificance, betrayal. hate, disappointment and more....remember, you are not alone or unique. You are just a human being.
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