When I look at human suffering, I often think, if only we knew the difference between who we are and who we think we are. Meaning, if we knew the difference betweeen us and our-selves. There is a reason why we have a self, because we are beings who have identified with a self. This self is who we believe we are but this self is what we refer to when we say my-self. So who is 'my'. who are we referring to here? Is there two Selves? Who is the owner?
My-SELF. think about it, that implies there is an owner of the SELF. But we do not pay attention to this.
The most important thing is that if we understand that the self that we have is something that is changeable. or even something detached from us, then I would say so much of our suffering would dissipate.
Because most of our suffering is created by our attachment. If we knew that this is happening because of the SELF that is somehow a result of so many things, then that would ease our burden. we would not be so harsh on ourselves.
The pain we receive is not only perpetrated by the society or the environment but by our main thought faculty. It is perpetrated by who we think we are, and who we believe we are deep down. unfortunately, we cannot really blame anyone really but the truth is most of this was based on our deep core experiences in childhood that ended up shaping our lives. We ultimately should take responsibility for our lives but sometimes we get so stuck in the cycles that we don't even know what we can do with it. We see ourselves as complete victims to situations and circumstances. we label ourselves as completely powerless and empty. We then blame others for our situation because who are we to cause pain to our own selves? right? so it must be the next neighbour , it must be that guy who was selling me sandwiches, yes, he ruined my day, because I didn't. I never would ruin my day because that would never make sense.
Can we really take responsibility for our lives? If so, when? When do we start saying this is mine to take, this is my responsibility? Where is the line between blame and self responsibility ? We have to define that. at what point do we say, this is mine to fix or do.
We are our own worst enemies and that is the unfortunate truth sometimes that we need to become aware of and accept. Inorder for us to be aware, life has to teach us in so many ways. because one of the best faculties we were given as human beings is to self reflect the ability to look at ourselves is what gives us power to change what we don't like. But if we don't utilize this ability, we tend to get nagged on by life so that we can finally wake up to the fact that our life is not going how we want it to and it is unto us to do something about it. we can't continue to be bystanders in our own lives.
The separation or the awareness between us and our thoughts, beliefs, etc would have been very beneficial. This is because we can't change what we are still so strongly attached to. or we can t let go of what we think we are. This is why I think self awareness is the biggest key factor in our lives. The less self awareness we have, the less power we have because we think that we are not playing a part in our reality. We automatically become victims of circumstances because we cannot see how we contribute to the unhealthy cycles that run our lives.
If a person doesn't have some self awareness or ability to self reflect, it becomes so hard to break the cycles that are causing them pain. This is the most painful part of helping others is that realizing that the person is not ready to see what is causing them the most suffering. How can you help someone who is not even close to thinking that they can indeed be the ones to bring abut this life upon themselves? this is a hard spill to swallow for a person how has limitsed perception of their self.
This is why the study of self is probably the most important study one can partake in, it is not engineering or science, it is the faulty of self that one should enroll in, as early as they could. Your study of your self will bring you so much knowledge, observation, solution, power and energy to change your circumstances in life. it Is more than the job your are going to get, or the stuff that you are going to by in your life time, noting can surpass your knowledge of self because it will bring you to your desired state of being and closer to solutions in your life.-@thewholisticglow
Comments ()