Alignment isn’t a destination. It’s a state we return to.
Again and again.
It’s not about being perfectly regulated, endlessly clear, or always confident. Alignment is something that happens when we are rooted in presence and in connection with our truth. When we are with ourselves fully, alignment naturally arises — it holds us, centers us, and allows us to move through life in integrity.
But life pulls us out of it.
Our patterns, our histories, our environments — they all shape how safe it feels to stay with our truth. And for many of us, it hasn’t felt safe at all.
🌑 Why We Lose Alignment
To understand why alignment can feel so hard to access, we have to go back to where we learned to leave ourselves.
As children, we developed survival strategies based on what kept us safe — not emotionally safe, but relationally, socially, and nervous-system safe. That safety often required disconnection.
- Maybe we became the good girl or good boy — compliant, pleasing, attuned to others, but disconnected from our own needs.
- Maybe we pushed against everyone and everything to protect a tiny flame of self.
- Maybe we froze, fled, or fawned, learning to stay small, invisible, or agreeable.
Each of these responses was intelligent.
They helped us survive in families, cultures, and systems that didn’t know how to meet us. But over time, these responses became identities. Belief systems. Emotional patterns. Habits of body and mind. They got woven into our sense of who we are — and they’re still running the show.
🌬 Conditioning Isn’t Just in the Mind — It’s in the Body
Conditioning isn’t just what you think. It’s what your nervous system believes. It lives in your bones, your breath, your posture, your energy field. It shows up in the words you choose, the tension in your gut, the way you walk into a room.
This is why returning to alignment isn’t as simple as thinking positively or changing a habit. We’re not just working with the conscious mind — we’re working with deeply ingrained survival strategies that once kept us safe.
🌕 So What Is Alignment?
Alignment is the felt experience of being in connection with your real self.
It’s a state of energetic coherence — where your body, emotions, thoughts, and actions are working in harmony, not contradiction.
In alignment, you feel:
- Clear, even if you’re uncertain
- Grounded, even when life is messy
- Present, even when things are hard
- Safe enough to be fully you
It’s not a performance. It’s not perfection. It’s a coming home.
🌀 How to Recognise When You're Out of Alignment
You might be out of alignment if:
- You feel foggy, scattered, or emotionally flat
- You’re reacting from old habits or people-pleasing patterns
- You feel disconnected from your body, your boundaries, or your voice
- You’re saying yes when your gut says no
It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It just means something in you is reaching for an old way of staying safe — and that part needs your attention.
🌟 The Return to Alignment
Coming back into alignment isn’t about force or fixing.
It’s about presence, awareness, and energy.
Here’s what that often looks like:
1. Sitting With Yourself
Becoming familiar with your own energy is essential.
How do your true yes and no feel in your body?
How does your energy respond when something is right for you — or when it’s not?
This kind of self-knowledge doesn’t come through thinking. It comes through being with yourself. Over and over again.
2. Releasing Unresolved Energy
When we carry old patterns, beliefs, and emotions in our system, they cloud our ability to feel what’s true.
Releasing energy — whether through intentional movement, breathwork, meditation, or energy healing — helps clear the field so your real self can emerge.
You don’t need to be attuned to Reiki to do this, but energy practices like Reiki make this process gentler and more tangible. Intention is enough to begin.
3. Setting and Maintaining Boundaries
Alignment can’t live where your energy is leaking.
Boundaries are not just emotional — they’re energetic.
Learning to recognise what’s yours (and what’s not) is foundational to staying in your truth.
4. Sitting in Your Own Energy
This is the true practice.
Coming back into yourself — again and again and again.
Letting go of what isn’t yours.
Letting go of who you had to be.
And remembering who you actually are underneath it all.
🌱 You Can Start Now
This is lifelong work. It’s not about mastering it all. It’s about meeting yourself with compassion in each moment you realise you’ve drifted — and gently returning.
✨ I’ve created free resources to support you with this process.
Start with the Truth Compass — a 5-minute practice to help you feel into your yes/no and reconnect with your inner knowing.
👉 https://payhip.com/LeenaGraham/collection/embody-your-truth
You're not broken.
You're not lost.
You're just coming home.
And you can return anytime.
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